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#1
May 15, 2014, 09:05 PM
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What are your techniques for receiving hugs without asking. I don't want to ask for them.
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 bluedolphin92, Loading, wife22
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May 16, 2014, 12:02 AM
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It depends on who you want to hug you
 Most people are not going to randomly hug you. Good friends often hug hello and goodbye without asking. Your spouse should hug you without being asked. There's nothing wrong with asking for a hug if you need one
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May 16, 2014, 04:15 AM
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Hi Illegal, first of all it sounds like you can do with some hugs, so some coming your way:
 But then depending on the situation maybe you are going to have to ask someone/people. Kind of the same way as if you're feeling down, some people might be perceptive/notice, others may not, or some may not know how to help, or may not know how much a hug might mean to you. Doesn't mean that some people might not be more than ready to give you a hug if you need/want one though. And just like TrueMe said, there's nothing wrong with asking for a hug. In general though maybe you can mention to people that it might be good if you could hug more or ask why you/they don't??? Or depending on the person/people, even try to be a bit more spontaneous about that yourself??? And it might become a bit more "second nature" in those relationships at times??? Alison |
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May 16, 2014, 04:23 AM
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I don't have any techniques for receiving hugs because I don't get many myself, but I can give you one.
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May 16, 2014, 08:11 AM
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The problem here is the premise of the question being "how to get what you want from others... "
One should look for "what can I do for him/her/them?" and more likely to get reciprocity from others whether in hugs, kisses, communication... etc. My 2c |
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May 16, 2014, 08:19 AM
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I think the best way to get a hug from someone you know very well is to just ask them if you can have a hug. Most often, you will have to initiate the hug. If it someone you don't know very well, that probably wouldn't be appropriate. But, again, the best way with people you're intimate with is just to ask. Good luck with getting some hugs IRL. Here's a virtual hug:
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May 16, 2014, 08:52 AM
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May 16, 2014, 09:03 AM
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You hug someone
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May 16, 2014, 04:18 PM
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In most cases, when you pass by a hungry and homeless person and you care enough to reach into your pocket and give to them, they will usually hug you. You won't expect a hug, but they usually do come. Plus, the feeling of helping someone in need is more rewarding than a hug as well.
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May 16, 2014, 08:20 PM
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Honestly I usually don't like to be touched all that much, so it's usually other people giving me the hug which I just kind of awkwardly go along with so as to be polite. There was a case a few weeks ago when I wanted to hug my crush as he was leaving. I just kinda...went for it. With one arm at first and then the other when I felt that he was hugging back. The week after that he hugged me first
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May 16, 2014, 08:45 PM
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Yes I was once hugged on the street by some crazy person, she was this lady and she was very happy for no reason and she asked me if I was asian, and I insisted I wasn't, but she said I was lying, then she hugged me and said I was a big teddy bear.
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May 16, 2014, 08:58 PM
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I have none. I'm pretty hands off. If kids, way of holding out my arms. With significant other, depends...
Family, after not seeing each other a while. And, yes, figuratively speaking, when in Rome, I am comfortable with the cheek kisses as greeting.. Sent from my LG-MS910 using Tapatalk 2 |
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May 19, 2014, 07:22 AM
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