[nira tripathi]

my bf has ocd , he himself told me. its going to be an year since we committed . he has turned my life upside down.
he slowly started interfering in my life n my he controls me. if u would ask me why dont i leave him , my answer is he has family involved , they would call me and scold me as he is their only son . he cries like hell whenever i dont listen to him , or do what he tell me to. he hits himself , use foul language when he gets angry. it started with him telling me to wear proper clothes which cover me properly (my curves) , u wont believe but he made me stay on call 24 x 7 , when i was doing a job , it was a prestigious job i struggled to get , he would stay at call n listen to everything happening around , my boss who use to hit on me , would call me for meeting n he would get angry at me for he taking my name . boss getting angry at me would make him go crazy , he made me leave office abruptly many a lot times , he is a phone sex addict ,
he doesnt let me talk to anyone except him and i have no friends except 2 girls which i convinced him to let me talk to. he has made deactivate my facebook n whatsapp accounts, he doesnt let me have a haircut .
he has made me resign < i had too , because he was creating so many troubles at my workplace .
now i want to die , i loved him n this is turning out to be the biggest mistake of my life

all this is causing me depression , i dont smile anymore , i have depression and i dont want to go out , do a job , or do anything.

[yumi]

Well, you are being very much manipulated and intimidated by him and his parents
You are also being abused and trust me, it will only get worse the longer you stay with him.
I fear for you.
This is YOUR life and you deserve to be happy in this lifetime. This is the year 2014, not the year 1814 or something like that. I'm trying to say, times have changed and women now have more power to choose what is right for themselves.

I understand your culture very well and know how men treat their women. I know it is difficult for women to take a stand. But, it can be done.

I do pray you free yourself from this man. For your sake as well as for the sake of any future children you may have. All of you would deserve a loving husband and father. Not one who is controlling or abusing.

Hugs

[Hellion]

Having OCD does not excuse that sort of controlling mentally abusive behavior. So I'd certainly say the best option is to probably end the relationship with him...even if that is very hard it would probably benefit you greatly in the long run.

[Rose76]

Originally Posted by nira tripathi

if u would ask me why dont i leave him , my answer is he has family involved , they would call me and scold me

What about your family? Is there no one to be supportive of you and your welfare? This is a much bigger problem than OCD. This young man is seriously abusive. If you feel intimidated, you need to seek support and protection from somewhere. Your life will be miserable, if you don't find a way to escape from him. I'm sorry for what you are going through.

If your biggest fear is getting "scolded" by his family, then I don't quite understand you. Are you actually afraid of something worse happening?

[Rose3]

find a safe place for yourself, so that you can have some support, and then you can decide how you want to proceed in your life.

[Elektra_]

thats not ocd thats far more serious. leave him caz it will only get worse.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Hooo-llyyy... crap. That's heavy. Leave him and who cares if you know his family or whatever. You're not not married to his family. Get out while you still can! BE FREEEEEE.



This comes from a guy who also has pretty bad OCD and has done all his life. (for the record, I can't see me ever treating a woman like that) I understand he may have issues, but he needs to get help, and you need to be released. Show dem curves! Haha. But yeh, ... seriously, ... not healthy for you to be in that relationship.