Is this a form of manipulation and control

The following is an email i sent to therapist spouse and i are seeing of course she said it unethical respond. Really would love others opinions. Hey Jena saw Rebecca on Thursday, feel like I just rambled about all the stuff that has gotten me to where I'm at. She seems very nice. When I came back he was asking questions; what did she say, what did she say you should do to get rid of your anger. Does she want to see me? This made me uncomfortable but I responded. He was confused that she didn't give me tools to help with my anger management, since that's what you said I needed. Well anyway that's that. But I would like to run something past you and get your opinion; not sure if that's allowed, if its not I understand. So on Friday we having discussion and argument back n forth from one to the other. Within that he starts telling me what we need to do to trust each other again; and that is, when ever one of us leaves and we say bye we need to say I love you I trust you. He continues saying we do this exercise everyday and you watch in 2 or 3 month you will trust me again. I could tell you all the things I said in response, but basically I felt like he was trying to manipulate and control me. I'm curious if you can give me your thoughts on this? If that's not allow I do understand. Thanks so much!

Do you have your own therapist you can talk to? I am sort of confused by who is who in the email. It is your husband telling you that if you say 'I love you, I trust you,' you will trust him again?

I am confused as well. I wonder just who is who in the email. are you and your spouse seeing a therapist? Were the questions from the therapist to you about your spouse? In any case, do continue therapy and remember that actions always speak louder than words. Hope that helped

Yes it is my husband telling me that this is what we need to do so we can trust each other again. No the therapist didnt instruct us to but yes we are going to therapy, well twice anyway. I just get angry and confrontational because he just keeps telling lies and won't be honest with me. Almost 27 years of this I know the answers I guess I'm just looking for conformation. Thanks any opinions are greatly appreciated!! 2 therapist couples and then I the wife have one

Do you mean you have your own therapist and then there's the one for the marriage counseling? It seems that way to me but I wanted to be sure. It is strange that he thinks by saying 'I love you I trust you' to each other every day that things will magically get better...Obviously I don't know everything about the situation but that's my two cents...

Yes that's correct therapist for couple counseling not open to individual sessions if she's doing the couples. I tried telling him that saying it isn't gonna make it real. But he just keeps saying you watch 2 3 months from now you will trust me again. Nothing to do now but throw my hands in the air and say whatever!!

Out of curiosity, does the couples counselor know that he keeps pushing this? It may be really important that they know.

Yes she is aware. The first post is the email I sent to therapist asking her opinion she replied that it was not ethical for her to respond.