How to have discussions with loved one and not annoy.

Has anyone wanted to discuss beliefs and ask questions to their significant other but didn't want to start frighting? So what I am sharing is, can I work through my issues by sharing my strange faith with him, but not annoying him? Maybe it takes someone that has patience or just a compatable friend to have these conversations with . Razel

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can I work through my issues by sharing my strange faith with him, but not annoying him? Maybe it takes someone that has patience or just a compatable friend to have these conversations with . Razel

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Hmm-

If I may ask? - What exactly do YOU mean by "strange faith" and how well do YOU personally know about how MEN perceive things / do things? - being a different species than WE females are.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

lol Rhapsody - men are a different gender, not species (but I know what you were getting at! )

Razeljenny, is there some reason you suspect that your significant other might get annoyed by what you believe? How close are you? REGARDLESS of gender (because you can walk on eggshells about certain topics with certain women as well, if you know that they are easily irrirated by them), has he hinted at irritation of the subject in the past, or is he generally open-minded?

Without knowing the answers to those questions, I do have an immediate opinion, and that is if what you believe is strong in your heart, then voicing them to your sweetie is a good way to check your compatibility.

Let your beliefs be your filter; not how you communicate them.

If someone I date is going to be annoyed or fight because he won't accept me for who I am and what I believe, then I'd want to know that sooner rather than later. Allowing yourself to walk on eggshells just builds up resentment, which becomes an ugly monster later on.

Rhapsody, I mean I destress by thinking about the greater whole (the emense universe and solorsystem. I also tell him that I go there when I please to let off steam) I believe that the earth was populated by alians (egyptians) and before that it was dinasours. That is why people and the earth aren't compatable and never were meant to be.

Speaking ONLY for myself, I went through a stage where I was incredibly religious (& I was raised in an atheistic household--really anti-religion) & it was part of my illness. I became so obsessed with the religion & felt like I needed to pull my husband in or he wouldn't be "saved." I was overly involved in religious studies, stopped taking my meds cuz the rigid church I was attending taught that prayer & holy living will cure you, etc. Needless to say, my prayers didn't work & I went into a real spiral down.

My husband stuck by me & tried to humor me, but refused to follow my almost commands that he adhere to my religious beliefs.

After that experience, I've become non-religious--not anti. I've know a lot of people who are helped, get strength & support from their God & church. Right now I'm not one of them. I suggest from my own experience that you not be too adament about your loved ones joining you in your religious beliefs. After all, it should be up to each individual--not something forced upon another.--Suzy

I personally believe that if our significant other really LOVES us then they will be able to stand by us through thick and thin (physically & emotionally)..... no matter how bizarre things and/ or life may become, for we all come with different kinds of beliefs, baggage and faults.

Hang in there.................................... <font color="purple"> ((( hugs ))) </font>

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

striking a blance is difficult. I hope I can

I been thining about my EGO. I consider myself intelligent. I realize though that in converstations with people that there are breaks and that conversations should be allowed to peter out.

I have been less annoying. I was speaking most when I started this topic about the issue to "having a FAIR conversation, with spouse."

So do spouses deserve to be talked to fair? After being with the spouse for a couple years, do I change and let conversations go more my direction. Do I let conversations lead to the ego and less to looking out for the mates equiliberum and peace of mind, since after all he or she is mine now, and anything really goes, afterall they love me unconventionally, What thoughts can we share. It there a point that it is OK to do? Just what is fair, and what is loving? How much is good? How much is bad? Does this conversation matter? Any success stories where the one spouse DID dominate most conversations and the couple did GREAT? Sometimes the man likes "to be led to think, he is in charge, and maybe that isn't a bad idea for us girls to allow, SOMETIMES!"

Thankyou board members and I so totally totally totally appreciate the discourse of my topic. Thankyou, thankyou thanks. Love Robin