I've SO had it!!!

You are correct in that the "stronger" appearing members here do not receive much unsolicited visual support. I doubt anyone is to blame.

Think about the admin...DocJohn, KimmyDawn, LMo... and the mods (I can't list all of you till I have a current listing and I don't want to leave anyone out)... and our new helpers psisci, and drclay... we don't see many Kudos etc for them...

another thing is that the stronger members don't ask for much support...and we often give much more than we receive. There are many, many such members here...and we should (oh did I say should?) try to remember each other...

HOWEVER, (((((septembermorn)))) when the need is expressed, the membership surely does come through and SHOW the support that is really there all along (IMO) They do appreciate us and all the other members...



Try not to wait so long in asking for the outward display of support you need... it might help you not become so frustrated. (((((hugs)))) Seeing the support that is there for you always encourages!

Tomi said...

From now on, I'm only shoveling my own personal crap!!

We're here to help you lift the shovel if you need it...

Julia said...

we need to try hard to remain supportive.....not take sides or interfere in matters that are between 2 people even if both those people are our friends......

I had a beautifully long post that I was working on and saw that I had email. When I clicked on the mailbox, AOL shut down on me and I lost everything.

I normally would have left the email alone, but I was expecting and answer... which I got. Now, I'm very emotional and if you were to touch me, I'd scream from pain.



And I can't even talk about here...

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Petunia}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I need something, Sweety... I'm just not sure what it is. I'll let you know if I figure it out. Just knowing that you care is good enough for now.

PS You are watching Tomi being controlled. Tomi doesn't do "control" well at all... especially when it's from outside sources!!

Control is not all bad.
Take the reins and control yourself...and it will be a little easier.
We all like to go off on a rampage but it rarely does us any good...and often leaves us worse off afterwards. Maintain as best you can ((((hugs)))))

You wouldn't BELIEVE how in control I am of myself!! That's not what's bothering me.

Enough said! I'm talking about this WAY TOO MUCH where others can read.

See? I could go on a tirade and spill everything... but I'm controlling myself and NOT doing it.

very proud of you Tomi for having self control... you are a wonderful person!!!

I think you must be missing your Jillers, ((((Tomi)))) - lol - yeah, I'm sure that's it [heehee ], the cure for all ills (not ).

HEY! You must have felt my vibes!! I've been thinking of emailing you!!

You're definately welcome to, ((Honeybunny)) , or pm either one...

XOXO...

Well... I could scare the poop outta you and tell you that Jerry's going to Vegas tomorrow and that I'm going to be dropping by... but I won't! LOL I've got too many responsibilities here that prevent me from going. Besides, I think he could do with a breather away from me. He's getting overwhelmed with this family thing.

LOL you have no idea how many times I utter this exact sentence! Thanks for the laugh, glad Im not the only one!

Ain't that the truth!

Glad you got a laugh out of it! LOL

"And the beat goes on!!"

((((hugs))))

Relationships can be trying.
Doing our best often isn't acceptable...to others.

Boy, don't *I* know that!

OOPS! See post below

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I've also SO HAD IT with some of the people here. PC seems to be going downhill to me. But I'm willing to admit that this could just be MY OWN perspective.

I try to post positive things, things that will motivate me as well as others to start making some small changes in our lives, and nothing happens. No interest! The posts that draw the most attention are those that could very well start arguments and dissention. I've also seen members attack other members on the board. I get PMs of things going on behind the scenes that create hurt for others.

The people that get the "support"... or better yet, "enabling" are the really whiney ones.

IMO and from My Perspective, I don't get much support and I'm thinking that it's because I'm seen as one of the stronger ones. News, people!! I'm human, too! I have my own failings and my own issues, my own illness to contend with.

I come on here looking to read where someone has offered some good advice to another member in the hopes that it will help me, too... I don't find it!!

Some of us have drummed up the courage to ask for what we need and we get told "I think we're going down a bad road here"???? WHAT??????

I'm tired!! I'm disillusioned!! I've had it!!

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You are NOT alone!!

AWWWW! What cute meeces!! Thanks, Sweety!

LMBO! I love baboons! They're so human-like!!

Hi again, ((((Tomi)))):

I don't really know what is going on, but what I do know is that it was you that first exposed me to the idea that I didn't have to take anything personally, (way back on the other Board nearly five years ago now - can you believe?!

XOXO,

Jillers

You've got the memory of an elephant, sweet Jill!

It's just a whole load of crap coming rolling down at me from the hills. You know the saying... "'It' rolls downhill!" For some reason I always manage to catch it and stop if from rolling further.

My T said that this last week I think... It rolls down hill, to which I replied..yeah unless the dog eats it first.