[xEmilyIsSadx]

Well, this is a Jared problem YET AGAIN... we used to spend time with eachother every day, despite the fact that he goes to school and I dont. But now, he is in school all day, and I take one class at 3:30-4:30ish. You know, he really is not a busy guy. He could call me when hes done with school, just to say hi or something, since hes to tired to call in the mornings, but each night, when I call him (around 5, after giving him an hour to call) he always says "Babe, can I call you back later? Im skating right now" I always say okay, and ask when, and he says "in a half hour" so Im like, well, skatr boarding is our passion...Ill let him go today. But then that ends up being EVERY day, and he is either by himself, with his friends, or with a girl, and hes usually with this girl named Cassey, from his old neighborhood, who he says "is like his sister"...so I dont know. I understand that he has a life, and that he needs time to himself. But seriously. He makes NO EFFORT WHAT SO EVER to spend time with me. I know that sitting around my house isnt so much fun, but theres not much else that he wants to do but skate board, and I understand what its like to love skating, hell, its a big part of my life too, but hes my boyfriend. Im his girlfriend. I talk to him all the time about this saying "You dont spend any time with me anymore, and I cant be with you if your not going to be here for me. I know it hard being with me when I have all these problems, but baby, I TOLD you I was a big responsibility, I told you a million times before we got together.." and he says "I know, I know, and it gets annoying with all ur problems, but Ill try to be here" AND HES NOT TRYING, (and I told him that too) We got back together a week and a half ago after an argument, and Ive only seen him once since then, and then again for about ten mintues when we ran into eachother at a store. I know he still cares, because last night I went running and I have breathing problems, and he called while I was having a panic attack, and came and got me...but my dad was already on his way, but Jared still waited with me, and I thought that was sweet, BUT even my DAD asked why Jared didnt just come home with me. its so ridiculous, I can handle not seeing him for lke 3 days...but I think if you are in a serious relationship you should be seeing eachother every day. Thats normal. Im not asking for alot. Just effort, and he doesnt get it, I love him, ALOT, but hes beginning to waste my time, my tears, AND my energy.

[Soidhonia]

Hello Emily. I hope things are going okay for you at this time. Emily I am going to be very blunt, and truthful. YOU are spending too much time worring about your boyfriend you need to put your energies into more positive things, you are too young to waste your life worrying and tring to keep a relationship in tact, that your boyfriend is not as interested in as you are it seems. Have you spken with your therapist your therapist can help you get involved in more positive things for your life, than worrying continually about this relationship. Maybe your boyfriend just wants to be friends, maybe you should talk to him about what he thinks is going on in this relationship. Maybe that will help clarify the relationship and you can relax knowing that your boyfriend is OKAY wth just being friends, and you can stop worrying so much about your boyfriend and just be friends. I really hope the best for you but you need to have a life that you deserve without having this much worrying take care good to hear from you again as always Emily Take care Soidhonia

[xEmilyIsSadx]

i cant just be friends with him. we've tried. we always end up...u know. i called him last night, we had a big talk...he wants to come over tonight...i think i just have to remind him of what he has.

[SeptemberMorn]

Why don't you go skateboarding with him? Is it that he doesn't want you there? If not... then I don't think he's worth the time.

You know, actions speak louder than words. He said he'd be there for you, but he's not. Take your cue and "exit, stage left."

Yes, actions do speak louder than words & his coming to see you only at HIS convenience is not good. It doesn't sound like he is putting too much effort into the arrangement. Maybe you're too available. I know when my boyfriend & I broke up, I had to become more independent & build up my own life & find my own passions--not just concentrate on him.--Suzy

[okiedokie]

[Wants2Fly]

Emily -- I have left a longish response to your more recent post on the General board. The time has come for you to become Emily-focused instead of focused so much on Jared.