[ace333]

We have been together six years. And sex is becoming an issue over the last year or so my bf has practically stopped wanting to have sex. Wont even bring it up wont initiate and views it as a chore. I have tried everything to make him want to. I try to do romantic things. Ill flirt drop little sexy hints to him thru the day, make the setting romantic, suggest we go to stores to get new things to enjoy, surprise him with outfits, even the more forward walking into the room naked and just simply asking if he wants to. All to no avail.
In fact its been causing huge fights. Hell ask wtf is wrong with me why I want to so much. To stop asking and do something in stead of ask. But when I try to say set the mood or dress up its always " I dont want to". When I try to say touch him in ways to put him in the mood " stop, what r u doing , I dont want to " so im getting yelled at to come up with new things and ways to put him in the mood but then im getting yelled at when I just ask.
Its making me feel very insecure and unwanted. And in our recent fights he says " thats all u want. Why dont u go be a porn star." "You know why I dont want to its fing boring and stupid" to which I will ask what he wants from me to make I not boring which leads to more yelling and name calling.
I dont understand what im doing wrong and why its soooo terrible of me to want to be with him physically more than once a month if im lucky

I feel lost, sad and completely unwanted what am I supposed to do

[Piraeus]

Maybe he wants rough sex. I'm sorry you feel unwanted. I suggest you sit down with him and ask why he is acting this way. Tell him your not going to walk on egg shells any more.
I hope it doesn't cause a big fight. Just be honest.

[JeanneDoe]

I was in relationship before and I didn't want to have sex because I felt he didn't care about my feelings. We never really talked anymore. Maybe he wants to feel you care about him and not just the sex. Perhaps do something nice together, talk to him, ask about his day, how his family is doing etc. Don't do it because you want sex but because you want to fill his need for this emotion. Maybe I am wrong and this is not what he is looking for. Maybe ask him say something like "I love you, and want to make you happy. Are your needs being met? what can I do to meet your needs" I hope something I said will be of help. Good luck!

[brainhi]

Sounds like something is going on with him. Maybe depression or stress...I do not know...or is he getting his needs met in other ways that do not include you.
As they say "it's not you". Both of you hopefully can have a discussion with honesty as to why the passion is no longer between you. Never sure what it could be. See if he is willing to help make it better.

Frankly... I would never accept someone calling me degrading names.

[Elektra_]

hi. giving the posts u have been making i think u need a new bf. tc

[waiting4]

ace333....I'm sorry, so sorry but I have to agree with elektra...given the posts we've been reading, he doesn't seem to treat you well at all, and while I know just 'getting a new bf' is a LOT more difficult than it sounds...I do think you deserve someone who wants you, and respects you and has an interest is having a growing relationship with you...not a stagnant, hurtful one. You deserve so much better than him, and while I know you've asked different questions trying to fix YOURSELF because of how he treats you...IMO, it's not YOU that needs fixing.

And since expecting someone to change never works (if it did, I doubt you'd be posting the things you have about him)...you might want to seriously consider moving on.

I'm sorry. I wish you well...