is my mother trying to seduce me or am I reading too much into this

It was this way with me; I am from India and I am a Hindu [I give you this info as I want all to have a clear understanding of my position] my mother was very strict with me since childhood but doting towards my elder brother. Since I got to 15 years of age her behaviour suddenly changed towards me. I don’t know what the reasons could be but I guess one on them is that my elder brother is a good for nothing spendthrift. My father works in the BSF and is out station for most of the year. It was also during this time that I started earning a bit. Whatever the reasons her behaviour changed drastically! It started with smiles & nice talk and gradually shifted to frequent kisses, hugs and sometimes massages. All this I never got during my childhood so I was taken aback but then I saw that her affection was a bit different than a mom son relationship entails. Like I notice she lip kisses me often these days instead of pecks on my cheeks, also during massages she tries to, how do I say do more than just massage, like if she is massaging my belly her hands travel a bit too low for my comfort or when she is massaging my leg her hand fondle my inner things right up to my lions! Like a couple of days ago she came to massage me in a bra and petticoat, you can imagine the situation as I was in my underwear only [she insists on it during massages]. She also makes me massage her sometimes or calls me to the bathroom to apply soap to her back. All these were quite ok for I live in India where mother and son are supposed to be intimately close. In my creed Hinduism mothers command is considered more pious than even deities and must be followed at all costs. Hence I carried on but of late even I am uneasy as I sometimes get the hots for her due to her conduct. Like few days back she was talking about my GF and subtly turned the topic towards my sex life. I have to admit I was aroused by her talk and expressions, don’t know why I talked in such detail with her about my sex life, even describing my sex acts with my GF to her! I am myself very surprised on my act. She ended by hinting “if you need any advice or otherwise need any help in this matter I can help you after all I am more experienced in this matter” She smiled slyly and said I need more practice and maybe she can help! I was dumbfounded and she walked away giving me a smile.
Please help me am I reading too much into this or is there something wrong?

WOW I dont know even where to start ...

Regardless of your culture I think many lines have been crossed and it needs to stop, Now ! .. Yuck Yuck Yuck ...

If I were you I would just be out and busy all the time ... This situation is wrong on so many levels.

Just stop this.

Sounds creepy to me! The fact that she just recently started showing you physical affection at 15 is very weird. I stopped giving my parents physical affection once I became a teenager because it felt inappropriate to me at that age. The fact that you said that you are getting turned on by her advances is not normal. I'm sorry, but who could get turned on by their own mother?!?! If I were you, I'd stay away from her as much as possible. Spend time with your GF. If you want to experiment sexually, do it with her. (but be safe about it, use condoms, etc.) If you continue to have sexual thoughts about your mom then you need to seek help. I'm not sure what the age of consent laws are in India, but your mom is being a predator.

If you are uncomfortable, there is something wrong. I would work to make sure you are not in circumstances where you mother can be quite so physically intimate with you and I would not talk to her about your relationship with anyone else (since it is your and that person's relationship and does not involve your mother). When she makes you uncomfortable, tell her you do not enjoy whatever from her and stop her. Yes, she is important and mother, etc. but you do not enjoy/it conflicts with you. You can defend your choices, if you have to, by asking her if she wants to make you unhappy because feeling conflicted like that makes you unhappy.

Anything that makes you uncomfortable is a valid concern. Have you told your mom how uncomfortable it makes you feel? Tell her that you don't want any massages - that's a totally normal thing to request. If she argues with it or tries to guilt you, ask her if she wants you to be happy - and then tell her that not being touched makes you happy.

I'm sorry that your mother is behaving so inappropriately. Stand your ground and stand up for yourself. There's a difference between respecting your parents and being abused/taken advantage of by them.

Just wanted to say that even though you felt some arousal even if it was faint, whatever you do don't trust that feeling because it could totally mess you up emotionally and mentally if anything further happened. I agree with other posters that you would be very wise to find a way of stopping this or extricating yourself from the situation as soon as you possibly can. Your mum has crossed her parental boundaries with you.

I understand there are cultural differences, but your mother has gone too far. It is one thing to be intimately close with someone, but yes, she has crossed the boundary line.

I totally agree with this! It's natural to feel aroused with certain kinds of touch, there's nothing at all wrong with you for feeling aroused, ok? It happens!

thanks for your quick replies, i needed that as i can't discuss this with anybody here in india as mothers are similar to devis[female consorts of deities] as per hindu traditions. i am trying to avaoid all such occasions were there is a chance of the above acts being repeated but at present i am not earning enough to be able to move out of my house. i just try to be as much as possible with pals or neighbours for the time being

I understand there are cultural differences here, and I admit I don't know much about Hinduism or the culture of India; however, I would tell her she is making you uncomfortable. It sounds like no matter what the cultural differences are, that she has gone too far. The only thing I can suggest is to talk it over with her and let her know its making you uncomfortable until you can afford to move out. If you perceive something is wrong with this, then more than likely something is. Trust your instincts.

i don't know what to make of this..but something is very very wrong

My father works in the BSF and is out station for most of the year.

Is there any way for you to reach your father and tell him what is happening? Would he help you with this? Regardless of cultural differences, I can't imagine any man on the planet who would approve of his wife behaving that way towards her own son.

Keep us posted on your situation. I think I speak for a lot of us when I say we are very concerned for your welfare.

WW

This is weird on so many levels. I work with a guy that has been in a relationship with his second cousin for over 15 years and a lot of people have come to accept that but you are talking about the woman that gave birth to you.

Is it possible she is just teasing you? Some people have a very unusual sense of humour and my Wife's Uncle is always telling her how sexy his hairy butt is and how real men do skids but he is just stirring her and it could be your Mum is doing the same thing and thinks you would get grossed out over talking about stuff like that with her because she is your Mum.