Sexting, picture exchanging etc.. effecting the marriage

Wow...your son is an outstanding young man. I'm proud of him.

Part of me has to agree, in part, with waiting4. I do understand that up and leaving is a difficult thing to do, and I don't fault you entirely. It's a hell of a proposition. But this "man" is a monster. It is entirely unacceptable for him to put you on trial in front of your children. Entirely. What is going on between you and him is your business. They have enough going on in the way of stress simply as the children. For him to drag them in and try to make them an...active participant, for lack of better phrasing...speaks to a horrific lack of empathy, an unstable personality, and cold calculation. He needs to be gone. You and your children NEED to be away from him. His being there is toxic to you and your family.

Hugs Silent...I hope things work out, and soon.

Hugs,
Harley

I'm speechless, actually, racing up, a moment to help my kids, caught a snag, and feeling emotional reading this, cursed real loudly, it was the f bomb, my initial gut response to what he did.

Mind me asking, what your daughter has that subjects all of you to this?

I don't believe any amount of AD will take care of this traumatic injury.

Best of luck.

Well that's why i needed to come to this site. to get some tough love. It's hard to leave because of money issues and well I'm weak and scared. Honestly I'm afraid to tell him to get the hell out of the house and I can't leave cause i don't have a cent to my name. I work but my paycheck goes fully to pay all our bills. The little savings I had are all long gone. I don't have family close to me either so it's not like I can go stay with anyone and I wouldn't do that to a friend cause i don't want to put people out and put them in the middle of my problems.

My feelings are a roller-coaster of emotions now, yesterday hearing him cry cause he was loosing his family actually got to me but then he started acted like an A..hole again and I'm back to hating him. I know he needs help but he won't get any.

I've reached out the the local women's shelter but I can't really take time off of work now since I don't have time left in the books to take off and they are not open late. I want to go to them to see what options I have and what resources are here in my area women who need help but I'm having trouble getting in to see them. Even counseling I can't go to cause although I have health insurance through my husband I can't pay the co-pay's. I just don't have money for that now. My full money is going to my daughter's doctor's appointments and things they need. If anything i'm trying to see how i can work extra hours or get an additional job so I can have some extra now so I can take them and my self to couseling but that's still in the process.

So well so far I know I'm responsible for this horror I'm putting my kids through and I'm going to make it better. It's probably a slow process but I'm trying ... I left my husband years ago and we were separated for a month, that time I left him and took off and filed a restraining order. I know the hell i'm headed for if i do that again and I also know that leave the 2nd time is much, much , much harder ..damn.. it's almost impossible.. it's scary as hell.. what's worse is that i do love my husband in some type of way but damn .. I'm trying to solve my way out of this .. i'm trying.

so far my husband is supposedly making plans to move out & is looking for a place to move into but i'm not sure if that's actually going to happen. I did tell him i want him to move out but I'm not sure if he'll actually do it without a huge fight. But i'm hoping for the best and hope he sees that it's for the kids best interest.

We've done them enough harm and I don't want to hurt them anymore.

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~rider and waiting4 and brainhi and BobbyDavis and Harley47 and healingme4me for all your advice and your thoughts..

Your in a terrible situation that is for certain..

But your childrens safety and wellbeing is the most important thing .. They ARE living in a very abusive situation daily.. You owe it to your kids to keep them safe and not to sound harsh but your excuses as to why you cant leave makes no sense ..

Put your children first and get away from him anyway you can .. even if you leave with a couple suitcases and go to a shelter ..

You need therapy and your kids will also need some to process the abuse.

Keep you and your children safe

I know others have been in very difficult postions as far as getting out...not sure how many are on this site...but the shelter should be able to provide you with ideas as to who to talk to to help you plan this - there will always be an excuse untill something really really bad happens - it's already bad enough

http://www.thehotline.org

Maybe you can get a referral to a therapist, not using insurance or help with copays or into a support group?
Sad, he doesn't leave a penny to your name, as we all deserve a semblance of a slush/emergency, car repair fund.
Having you pay all the bills?

Maybe, when school rolls around, utilize school resources, as what a trauma inflicted on your children.

There's legal services, in most states, as well. Yet, marital income counts as your income.

I'd explain the fear he's going to use explicit materials against you, which, in essence keeps you a prisoner.

To add. ..
What's he waiting for, anyways? He works in IT, where does HIS money all go?
Does he gamble or have other vices?
If he's that upset that you did all this, what's wrong with him?
Leave you alone, already, enough is enough...
Grow a set and grow up