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Jul 13, 2014, 07:50 AM
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Very long story short. I have been with my husband for 20 years..I am still in love with him, but it is breaking my heart. He hates doing anything together as a family or as a couple. I often go out alone or just with the children. When I am home he keeps to himself. If I press and ask him to go out with me and the kids, he is snappy and rude to everyone. I can't remember him ever initiating sex. We have sex about 4 times a year, but it seems like he can't wait to get it over with. I live for the rare times when he gets involved. .it's like a dream, but it happens so very rarely. I think he is unhappy, but he insiste that he is. I feel so alone, and have no idea what to do, I can't imagine my life without him but living like this is slowly killing me.
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Jul 13, 2014, 03:56 PM
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hi fawnrose
I am so sorry that you are hurting so. perhaps if you went to marriage counseling yourself to discuss your marriage you could get some tips on how to improve things. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome 
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Jul 24, 2014, 04:03 AM
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Hi Fawnrose. You say when you press him he gets angry. Does that mean you are asking him what is wrong. I have heard from several men that men in general Hate that question? Can not explain why but then again they are men and difficult to figure sometimes.
I see the last post suggested marriage counseling. Well that would be my first thought too. A very smart choice. Your post does not say that you have told him exactly how you feel. I mean a conversation where you do not say YOU make me feel this way or that. A talk where you say. I am really hurt that we do not spend any family time. I would really like to know what I can do to make that happen. Or I would really like to spend time with you, have some fun, see a movie, etc. A conversation without blame, just feelings. So many people have a difficult time opening up and discussing their feelings. I wish I had more. Good Luck to you
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