Forever alone

Seems like bad luck follows me when it comes two relationships, met fours guys in the past year and they all have depression. I think am cursed or destined to be alone. It's not like am unattractive but an starting to think that something is wrong with me. I just want someone to spend time with and date.

How are you meeting these men ? The reason I ask is .. if your out and about involved in activities you enjoy meeting someone that is also active would be a good fit .

Years ago I was kinda in the same situation and didnt know how to fix my lack of "dateable men" an Ole Pdoc asked me if I wanted to fish in a puddle or a lake ... Yeah lake is a bigger better option. Expand your search .. But most of all be happy with yourself until your at ease and happy with yourself no relationship will ever work.

Good Luck

Sorry for your dilemma. IMO, learning how to make a relationship work is the only way to be happy so I recommend that you google: "relationship tips" or get some books and study up on the few but powerful relationship skills and techniques that make a relationship work good. Good relationship skills like: total honesty and loving respect have made my current marriage wonderful for many years now. We both learned and use these skills every day, so try it - you'll like it.
good luck,
jim

Quick question though, what was the main thing that attracted you to these 4 guys?

What did you like the most of each one of the 4 guys? was it something in common?

Not really they are we're different. I fell in love with one of them but they all seemed to suffer from depression and I don't know why.

What where they depressed about? I mean, what was causing their depression? was it work?, their past?, their age?

I have depression so that means I will be single for as long as I am depressed? I wont be depressed if I had a girlfriend :/

If you are in your early 20s, just enjoy life without relationship yet, if you are in your late 20s or over, I understand your weary. Relationship takes responsibilities and commitment from both parties in order to work out, existence of common chemistry to connect and above all, existence of that unexplained feeling called: LOVE. Sometimes the right person comes when least expected. I think, socialization is the first step. There is no such thing as CURSED, it's just a matter of time. Patience pays off!

I totally understand your feelings Diamond-eyes. I have terrible luck with women. I am a hard worker, not broke, attractive, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. I am bipolar (not something I lead with lol) but I am medicated and am solid as a rock 90% of the time. That being said, in the last four years I have not had a single date; not for lack of trying. I don't think it is a curse, not sure I believe in that kind of thing, but it is definitely confounding. I wish I could give you some sage advise on this but in truth, I am just as lost as you on this subject. Just know you're not the only one with the issue.

I feel like you're saying men who are depressed are inherently "bad luck" and not worth developing a relationship with. This is a mental health website, with many men and women who are depressed and/or have a whole host of other issues; many of us seem to be in good relationships/marriages. I have depression... am I also a bad egg?

My last relationship was with a woman who was depressed; does that mean I should avoid women who have depression? Because y'know, there are some amazing women out there who just happened to be depressed, and I don't blame them - there's a lot to be depressed about in this world. xD

Yeeeeeah, I'm not quite understanding what exactly it is about depression that made those guys bad BFs either...

I mean I know there are challenges, certainly, my BF suffers from horrid isolating depressions (and I'm Bipolar) so I'm not in the dark concerning where difficulties may occur, but I doubt his depression could ever be the cause of a break up.

Wait scratch that, I know it wouldn't cause a break up.

Ps. On the flipside, I've had 1 other serious bf who was without depression (or any MH dx) and he ended up beating the shyt out of me. So "normal" can lead you somewhere even uglier than someone with a MH dx.