I don't have many friends, and I lost one of my best friends, I tried to patch things up, didn't work out, it was my fault entirely, and I am to blame. After a while I gave up trying to repair things, not that I moved on, but I decided if it's what makes my friend happy, then so be it. I tried to contact my friend again, I wanted to know if everything's alright, I got no response, I guess I'm not even worth a reply anymore.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Keep opening up whenever you're comfortable to do so, BE. We're here for you.

I kinda relate to the post (the edited one - I never saw the original) in a messed up way... makes me feel things... guilt, I guess, because I believe I've been and currently am in a situation like the friend you're trying to smooth things over worth, but I cannot forgive the other person(s). Tough situations. I hope things work out for you and this friend or ex-friend of yours. Maybe it just needs time.

[Fuzzybear]

[ToeJam]

Could do just little things that keep the link there... viewing this long term of course but friendships can have rocky patches... there may be times you seriously piss each other off and need a break... so just give them some room for now.

A way I kept friendships going were greetings cards... birthday and Christmas. One of my mates is a self confessed friendship wrecker and this year admitted that he'd not shaken me (and our 4 other friends that I don't have to work quite as hard with) off due to me keeping that small little tie and the odd text message going now and again (we've been mates for going on 30 years).

So, yeah... perhaps just let things simmer down, let the irritation or anger calm and just send a card hoping they are ok and that you're thinking of them... nothing clingy or dragging up past crap... just drawing a line and moving forward Don't expect anything back at first... might take a couple of years... but, if they mean a lot to you... it's just that little prod to show you still think of them

Originally Posted by Zwangsstörung

Keep opening up whenever you're comfortable to do so, BE. We're here for you.

I kinda relate to the post (the edited one - I never saw the original) in a messed up way... makes me feel things... guilt, I guess, because I believe I've been and currently am in a situation like the friend you're trying to smooth things over worth, but I cannot forgive the other person(s). Tough situations. I hope things work out for you and this friend or ex-friend of yours. Maybe it just needs time.

I have time, and I can wait, time heals wounds, as they say.

the original post had a lot more, but I sort of felt guilty about it, and cut down on the details.

It all started with a lie, I could've kept the lie going, but I cared about my friend and I came clean. The lie was just a small part of our friendship, we both sort of agreed later, maybe It wasn't really just my lie, but other things I had nothing to do with too that fractured the relationship

Originally Posted by ToeJam

Could do just little things that keep the link there... viewing this long term of course but friendships can have rocky patches... there may be times you seriously piss each other off and need a break... so just give them some room for now.

A way I kept friendships going were greetings cards... birthday and Christmas. One of my mates is a self confessed friendship wrecker and this year admitted that he'd not shaken me (and our 4 other friends that I don't have to work quite as hard with) off due to me keeping that small little tie and the odd text message going now and again (we've been mates for going on 30 years).

So, yeah... perhaps just let things simmer down, let the irritation or anger calm and just send a card hoping they are ok and that you're thinking of them... nothing clingy or dragging up past crap... just drawing a line and moving forward Don't expect anything back at first... might take a couple of years... but, if they mean a lot to you... it's just that little prod to show you still think of them

I send my friend a message every now and then, I have no way of knowing if my friend is reading them. If my friend is reading my messages and purposely ignoring them, it would hurt me a little, but I don't know for sure.

[ifst5]

It's hard when failed friendships can't be dealt with amicably. It's a very difficult thing to let go of...so many painful feelings involved. I think it's best usually just to go silent and allow the wounds on each side to heal in their own time. If your friend hasn't contacted you i suppose it's best just to accept their choice, focus on your own feelings and how you'd like to move forward. There will be other people in your life, more transience, but plenty of good times ahead too.

Originally Posted by ifst5

It's hard when failed friendships can't be dealt with amicably. It's a very difficult thing to let go of...so many painful feelings involved. I think it's best usually just to go silent and allow the wounds on each side to heal in their own time. If your friend hasn't contacted you i suppose it's best just to accept their choice, focus on your own feelings and how you'd like to move forward. There will be other people in your life, more transience, but plenty of good times ahead too.

I have a really hard time moving on, because there's very few people I get close to, and I take my time getting close to them, and I make sure they know a lot about me.

And when the friendship is damaged, it seems that I left a part of me with them.

[ptangptang]

I would agree Toejam. I wouldn't keep sending messages if he/she isn't responding. It'll soon be Christmas. Send a card then with a note. 'Miss having you as a friend. Can we start again in the new year with a new slate. I really value your friendship'.

I can wait for as long as it takes. If only my friend knew how I'm feeling about the whole thing.......

[niceguy]

Why don't you tell them?