Need to have "the talk" with my significant other

I need to have a talk with my significant other about how he isn't being very supportive right now and I need him to be. How do I approach the subject?

When I'm having a bad day and need to talk to someone I usually call him after he gets off of work and he used to listen but now he just tells me you need to learn to be happy all the time. UMMMMMM no one is happy 24/7 and if they say they are they are lying. He also tells me all you need to do is pray and read the bible and all will be well. I do realize that my faith does play a part in the way I function but it doesn't play 100%. These are just a couple of examples.

He's coming home from choir tour tonight and I want to have a talk with him soon something to the effect that if we are to have any sort of relationship then I need him to be supportive. Any suggestions?

Don't Blame me I just do what the Voices Tell me to do

When he gets home hit him on the head -hard- with the Bible and tell him to pray for the pain to go away....assuming it doesn't, you'll have prooved your point that praying does not always deliver short term comfort.

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He needs to understand that what you have is an illness, not just a "feeling" that you can make go away by watching a happy movie of something. Anything that you can do to help educate him would be good. You can ask your doctor for some literature on the subject, find info on the web or find some books at the library. I wrote a paper that may help (it is about depression but I think it will apply to other illnesses as well). It is at
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You have to realize the "high" these types of groups stay on while they are touring... they feed each other with encouragment and faith... and you are home left out. Some of it is because they HAVE to stay strong while singing and such... and they just can't afford to let negative into their life.

I'm wondering if somewhat of a bigger change isn't necessary... I think your wishing to have a chat is good. Unfortunately, most men don't (they just aren't fashioned) to sit and talk seriously about emotions and such.

Men do talk better when they are active in something... I don't know if sports would do it for this guy, but something physical like shooting hoops or at least walking... while talking. Otherwise, they close up, and are too self conscious and feel trapped (I think.)

good wishes.

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