[seawhale]

I had a girlfriend and got engaged one time before.

I really need love in my life, I can't find a suitable girl around me, due to my work nature as a site engineer, hardly any girls.

It is very tough, I am so emotional and I have much emotions that need to get off. Online dating is also a long trip, finding a suitable girl living in the same country was never easy.

I am miserable.

[~Christina]

Good places to meet women could be a coffee shop, Book store, Local community centers or classes like art at a local college not for credit just for fun. Join a gym, Volunteer at the spca or local pound, volunteer for habitat for humanity , the list goes on and on ... Just put yourself out there.

[seawhale]

Christina, many thanks for your suggestions, you are so kind

I sometimes go to coffee shops alone, it is possible to date a girl in a coffee shop but also it is not quit easy, always they are a group of girls, rarely to find a girl who sits alone, also here in eastern societies it is much more difficult than western societies.

I believe that online dating is easier but it doesn't end successfully in most of the cases, most of times it ends before ever the first meeting.

Many thanks dear and wish you the best of luck in your life.

Are there any clubs there ?
If you have friends ask if they know anyone single .

[~Christina]

Your welcome .. I hope you find that special girl soon

[seawhale]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Your welcome .. I hope you find that special girl soon

Just wish me a good luck and my destiny will take me to where it wants.

Thanks a lot.

Take care.

[norwegianwoman]

I have the same problem. I don't understand where people find guys. If I ask it's always "through friends" or "at school/work" or whatever.

I don't understand how people do that. I mean, I have a set group of friends, male and female, but I am not interested in any of them in that way. When I go out it seems everyone just wants to hook up (I'm 23, so it's "that age" where that's all everyone wants to do, men and women) and it's impossible to have a proper conversation. I was active in an organization for many years but didn't find anyone there either. If I try online dating I never seem to find who I'm looking for, besides I find it a bit awkward (my worst nightmare would be if any friends found me on a dating site, I once deleted a profile I had spent a lot of time on because I recognized one of the guys on there). I "know" everyone at school and the people I work with already. I am just a call-in at my work place and most of the others my age there are aswell, so it changes a lot who works there and when. There is one guy there I felt an instant attraction to, my friend thought he was ugly but I disagree (she said "it's too bad he's not good looking, or he would be a total catch") but I suspect he has a girlfriend from something he said once when we all went out for beers after work, and I wouldn't know how to approach him about it, it's awkward when you know you will be seeing each other again and he has worked there longer than me. I don't really understand how I am supposed to meet new people, particularly not "new guys", really. I mean, yes, I sometimes do meet new people at parties etc., but the same applies as the bars. I go out quite a lot and go to quizzes etc., but being chatty with other people there doesn't seem natural. I am too much of a coward to do things alone, such as join meetup.com-groups and stuff because I hate it when there's an established gang that I try to fraternize with if there is no one else in the same situation. But of course, that could be an option. I don't really go to the gym and I certainly don't go there to meet guys, a lot of the guys there seem a bit superficial and I don't exactly feel attractive in the gym.

It is possible I would just have to wait for a few years, until people are less obsessed with hook-ups and more starting to look for someone to love, but I don't want to wait for YEARS. Almost all of my friends have found someone and I feel stupid for not managing to do the same, ever since the relationship I was in ended last spring I have realized I want to be in a relationship, I am a relationship person, not a "wohoo being single is so fun"-person.

[seawhale]

norwegianwoman,

Although I suffer from the same but I will just give some comments.

You are a real person, not a fake one, fake people usually catch other people in an easier way vice versa for the real people, just respect being real and clear personality.

I am a male, and I see that topic is really easier for a female, you will usually find many other guys are flirting and interested in you, just give the chance to someone who you think is kind and good person disregarding his look.

Never feel stupid because you don't find love like your friends, you are good person, kind and lovely, trust your self and have self confidence, you will find someone who will love you honestly and deeply, believe me it will happen.

Being single is a miserable feeling, my last relationship ended exactly two years ago.

I hope that we listen to the opinion of Christina

Good luck and cheer up.