[Ilostmyguntoday]

So, hey.

This is kind of a request for some help / tips, call them what you will. My wife is struggling to sleep at night, her mind is racing with a lot of 'smaller' issues which as we all know, become one massive issue. It's a vicious circle, little sleep equals more stress, more stress equals less sleep, y'know the drill. As a husband who can sleep on a galloping hedgehog, I feel guilty that I can just switch off when I know fine well her mind at the moment can't.

Does anyone else find themselves in this position or have been? We have been down the route of sleeping pills but that's not the best idea because it wipes her out the next day. I'm bereft of ideas on how to try and help her, any hints or ideas will be much lay appreciated.

Thanks to you all.

[Little Lulu]

In the evening, before bedtime, it might be helpful for the two of you to talk about the current issues that are worrying your wife AND some possible solutions. Really talk it out until she feels like she has had an opportunity to get to the bottom of things. If you get the worry out before bedtime, it is less likely to ping around in your head at night. This has always helped me.

[BobbyDavis]

I can relate in a way to your situation. My Wife has endometriosis and she is often awake in the early hours of the morning in pain and she is pregnant too so I think that could be contributing to it more. She is on a lot of different pills at the moment and some nights they do nothing to help her but I find she appreciates it when I stay up and talk to her and make her cups of tea.

[hvert]

I find that certain books can put me to sleep. Postmodern philosophy, semiotics, math - stuff that I have to think about a bit to understand. Your wife may have different subjects that work for her. Trying to understand something I don't makes me forget about the worries.

[lilypup]

Have her try writing down all her worries before she goes to sleep. Is it cold enough in your room?

[~Christina]

I have the racing non stop mind.. I use meditation and light yoga to help slow it down before bed sometimes enough to sleep some.

Don't feel bad that you can sleep so easy and fast . My husband lays down rolls over and is snoring

Make sure there is no TV on or computer glowing

[Ilostmyguntoday]

Hey thanks for your advice, we do quite a few of these suggestions, we talk a lot about what is going on in her life, I can't help think it make her think of what is going on even more though. The passed couple of nights she has been quite good (as in she has been sleeping), so im thankful for that. The uncertainty is the most frustrating. Onwards and upwards.

Thank you again.

[ChipperMonkey]

There is a LOT of info out there about "sleep hygiene" so you may want to google that. If that doesn't work, I'd suggest seeing a sleep doctor (M.D.) My sleep was so horrendous at one point that nothing worked. (I was going on a month of *maybe* one hour of twilight sleep a night, IF I was lucky!) A sleep doctor will be able to tailor a plan for her specific issues. (You wouldn't be able to put it together yourself.) I ended up with a list of about 10 things I had to do every day to get my sleep back on track.