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This time three years ago in 2011 I was assaulted by bloke on my last day of work and a result I have been very shook up and I sank into depression and also developed pstd as result of what happened. For a few months after it happened I didn't contact my friends deliberately and throughout the years I sank further. I couldn't go out of the door, scared of everyone and wouldn't even send an email or text just could cope with things, at the same I lost my place at uni.
Then finally I did contact them and we met up once a twice a year but nothing special. They are aware of what happened when I finally told them but their reaction was kinda "okay" and we exchanged a few messages and nothing happened. Fast forward to 2014, they haven't bothered contacting me and when they have bothered I have been to unwell to go out or they haven't turned up when I expected them to. What shall I do? Should I give up on the people who have known all my life or give them one more chance I have texted them thousand times and called them but nothing really sparks up? In the past if something happened to them I would be the first time round there but they haven't be there for me. |
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Well it is worth keeping in touch, and consider if you might be asking too much of them - they don't sound like bosom buddies so perhaps you could cut them a little slack, after all it is unreasonable to expect them to fully understand you and your predicament.
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hmm, are you back at home or in another city, while they've been studying/working?
Friends can grow apart, just due to different lifestyles and life concerns. I think you can trust them, in a sort of general way, it depends what you want to trust them with? Just don't expect too much of them and possibly find some new friends? |
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At this point, I would put my focus on finding new friends. You are putting a lot of effort into maintaining these old friendships and it doesn't sound like they are reciprocating.
It could be that they are hurt you cut them off a few years ago and not willing to trust you? Or perhaps you have all drifted apart as you've gotten older? Friendships do change over time. You don't have to cut them off, but I would try to accept that you are no longer as close as you were and move forward from there. Do you think talking to them directly would help? |
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