Unsympathetic brother

I have an older brother who gave me alot of hardship in my life. When I was really young in elementary school, I had a lot of friends, was outgoing, and had a good life. However, my brother was the opposite in that he didn't have many friends. I think he grew alot of resentment towards me and looked for ways to put me down and bully me. We fought alot and eventually I started developing low self-esteem. Things got really bad in high school, when we were in the same marching band together. He would constantly be condescending towards me, yelling at me if I did something he didn't like, saying I couldn't get along with anyone, I was unlikeable and worthless, etc. He always got really angry at me/yelled at me whenever I made an attempt to be outgoing/sociable by saying I was being bothersome towards others and no one wanted to talk to me. He also knew I didn't have many friends, so he would indirectly try to insult me by saying stuff like loners are losers/wimpy/weak and making jokes about how shy/quiet people are worthless/wimpy/weak. When I was getting bullied by my classmates and teachers, and I tried to tell the school about it, he would say I was being a tattle-tell and was too wimpy/weak to stand up for myself. He never was never even remotely supportive. He was friends with some of those bullies and when I mentioned I didn't like them, he would yell at me, saying it was my fault for not being able to get along with them

He didn't get any better after college. When our father passed away, he screamed at me saying I was the reason he died, that I deserved to be bullied/ostracized in school because I was worthless, etc. He also knew that because I had difficulty making friends, I befriended Mexican and Chinese immigrants. He also constantly said incredibly mean, racist things about Mexicans and Chinese, saying they are human waste, take away jobs from Americans, sound retarded/backwards when they speak, smell bad, etc. He knew that offended me because I got along with them. He would also indirectly insult the way I dressed, by saying "people who dress like that look so gay"

I grew up with really low self-esteem. I thought it was normal to get yelled at/screamed at. I was very shy/quiet because I thought I was bothersome to people. Since people are less likely to befriend shy/quiet people, I had a very hard time making friends. I've only recently become more assertive/outgoing, but it's been a very hard battle, due to years of thinking that it was 'normal' to put up with yelling/screaming, insults about being weak/wimpy/unable to stand up to abusive classmates/teachers

The reason why I bring this up is because I had a recent bullying situation occur. I am teaching a class since I'm in grad school and some students attempted to yell/bully at me to get points back that I took off their assignment. I discussed the problem with the professor and head TA, and they said that absolutely should not be tolerated. I was actually hesitant to talk to them about it, since I was raised to think that if people tried to bully me, it was MY fault and yelling is something I'm just supposed to put up with. It led to extreme rage on my part as to how much better my life could've been if I had learned at an earlier age to not put up with others trying to bully me

Was my brother abusive? While we did get into fights and he tried to hit/punch me a few times, he never actually punched me. I know alot of the crap already occurred years ago, so it's probably too late to take any action. But is there any action I can take towards him now, other than refuse to speak to him? I called him out about his past behavior, and he just offered a blunt 'sorry', showing little sympathy for the crap I put up from him

Hey 1z, Congratulations, Becoming a teacher is wonderful. The fact that you have made it to Grad School tells me you have a lot going for yourself.
I agree with the professor, you should not tolerate bad behavior from your students. What is wrong with kids speaking to their teacher in that way.. If they want better grades, they need to earn them Geeze.
I seriously think you need to give yourself a lot of positive affirmation. And take it seriously.
I think it is sad that your brother has chosen to pick on you for any and everything about you that he disagrees with. Your friends are your choice. What does their color, or where they grew up have to do with it! Maybe your brother wishes he was more like you! It sounds like he is very insecure himself.
Like I said before, stand up for yourself and do not allow anyone to treat you badly. If others can not treat you like you deserve to be treated, with decency and respect, shine them on!!!!
Look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you love yourself and do it everyday!!!
Good luck to you

Thanks for the reply.

I forgot to mention one more thing about my brother. A few years ago, straight out of college, I was able to land a job at a large defense contractor. It was my dream job and I had never felt so proud about myself. However, I was required to apply for a security clearance as part of the job. A month after working, I was notified that I would be terminated because I didn't provide enough details on the application about the previous counselors/therapists I saw when I was going through severe bullying in high school. Although my brother deserves alot of blame for that, as he told me I took the bullying 'too seriously' and was very unsupportive and was often the bully himself, instead of offering support after I lost my dream job, he further tried to rub it in. I saw the messages he sent to our cousins, gossiping to them about how I lost my job and was 'acting like a high schooler'. That confirmed to me that he is evil

Other than ignoring my brother, which I've done for the past few years as I haven't even spoken to him, is there any other action I should take towards him? Perhaps get a lawyer and see if we can accuse him or my high school of causing psychological abuse/damage?