[kelly8896]

My first post was a short description of some past issues with my twin sister. We used to be best of friends and then she flipped out, acted totally immoral, and she see's no problem with it.

We haven't talked in several years.

Things are now to a point that she calls me names and my daughter names, she insinuates I'm a bad mother, I'm stupid, a control freak, a _itch, and selfish.

I don't understand why? I feel that if you really want to work things out, then you should think about what you say with the end in mind. I have never called her names or her kids names. There are many choice words I'd like to say, but that won't help things in the end. I do write them in a journal to get them out and even talk out loud to the dogs, pretending it's her. And although it helps to get it out, it's still frustrating why she's so mean and hateful.

I feel she likes the drama and when she gets a response from me, it encourages her to continue.

Where to go from here?

[Angelique67]

Have you ever asked her to sit down to calmly talk about your problems/twin relationship? It sounds like she feels rejected. I know that doesn't help much but that's probably why she's doing this.

[~Christina]

You can only control your reactions. Do you see her in person often? or on the phone?

In person just tell her you will not tolerate the abuse and certainly not towards your child and walk away . If on the phone and she starts to go off, just hang up the phone.

It's hard to have boundaries with family, but you need to protect the family you have now.

Im sorry your being treated so poorly. Stand up for yourself