Finding it hard to let my boyfriend go

I was dating a guy from a different country for a year. He has four children with three different women and is divorced. He has always been up front and honest about his past. I have no children but want one and have never been married. I have been very worried about his past. Wondering if it means he is untrust worthy. My family are all very concerned as they know about his past. I keep pushing him away and then really missing him. He recently took a job in a different country and wises to keep the relationship going. I have told him that I can't put my life on hold as he is gone for at least six months. He tells me he loves me and wants us to have a future. I have difficulty imagining that future. I am mad about him and miss him lots but I feel stressed about the relationship and feel under pressure from family to find some one less complicated. He has always treated me well and was very loving. We are different people, I'm easy going and a person pleaser and he is quiet domineering in his manner. I don't know what to really think about him. I think he is wonderful but maybe he is too much to handle. I know he is hurting over this but so am I. I am finding it real hard to let him go.

Sorry, but I agree with your parents. My main reason is that you are just starting out, you have no children, you are not divorced. I am glad this man has been nice to you but he has children with several woman besides his divorce. There is a reason he is divorced and besides what he has told you why have children with many different woman.
Good luck to you

When we have limited contact with someone, it is easy to imagine that the person has all kinds of good qualities that we like. Do you really believe that you know this guy real well? My suspicion is that there are some features of his character that you would not find too charming, if he were nearby and you two spend a lot more time together. I think that's what the 3 mothers of his children experienced . . . . a guy who seemed all that, until they got to know him better and then . . . not so much.

Do you think this guy takes fatherhood all that seriously? Is this really who you would pick out to be a father to your child?

He doesn't seem to be having as hard a time to let you go, as you are having letting him go. He's not sticking around to pursue you. Sounds to me like he moves from partner to partner pretty easily. His interest in you may be more superficial than you want to believe. While, he is over in this other country where his job is, do you think he is going to be faithful to you and not seek out other women? These are not questions for you to answer to me, just in your own mind . . . . some things to think about.