[jawz40]

I need some addviise.. I have been with my b/f for 4 years and things just dont get better.. I was in a accident and I was hurt to the point I cant work as much as I use to ..
At first I tried to, but pain is to much , he said not to worry lean on him, But when things get tight with money he treats me like garbage.. I sold my car the other day to stop things from being shut off , light , phone things like that .. He was so mad at me .. He said how was that a way to help us..
He has a truck , so I dont know how or why this made him mad.. Everything I do it is always wrong... He will go with out talking to me for days and if he does talk it is only to say something nasty to me. He wont sleep in the same room with me or eat with me . He just shuts me out and then after a few days of trying to talk to him . I will get mad and start to yell an say things I shouldnt and thats when he turns it around on me and will say I hate him an I am out to cause him nothing but pain.. I see it, I tell myself this is not going to work, I try to leave but I stop myself.. WHY????
Why cant I stop this.. I know I love him but he treats me bad.. Why cant I get out that door????

[howohsocliche]

I understand you're getting financial support, but is the amount of extra financial support you are getting from him worth the amount of emotional pain he's putting you through?

Clearly, he's not giving you THAT much financial support if your utilities are still being shut off. If that tiny amount of money is worth more than the amount of pain you are going through, then stay. But to me, you ought to at least have the benifit of being more financially well off if you are going to go through all that crap. Although, IMHO, it's not worth any amount of money.

Your life would be of much better quality if you get out of that relationship. Hell, you might even physically heal faster.

Be strong babe, you don't deserve this.

[SeptemberMorn]

I can certainly understand why you might be feeling insecure in several ways. I don't know what your financial situation would be without him, but it doesn't seem to be doing you that much good to stay with him.

See what kind of finacial help you can get from the State of your County and start doing things to make yourself more independent of him so that you'll feel more secure in walking out that door.

I think we all fear change and the unknown. That's why I suggest you start planning your goal of leaving to be on your own. You don't deserve that kind of treatment!

[Wants2Fly]

It sounds as if you are in financially difficult situation. Of course, that has got to figure into your plans to leave. No wonder you can't just walk out the door. Please don't beat yourself up for that.

I hope you will find an agency that can help you to figure out these plans. I like September's post, which offers a very sensible approach.