Relationship Help?

Hello, I have had difficulty finding a relationship since high school. I am now 21 and in the middle of my senior year of college and have never been in a relationship. I have been trying to but have felt very seriously discouraged recently as it seems like everyone else around me has had at least one relationship before. I feel like I have missed some crucial developmental milestone because it seems like it is becoming harder and harder to find someone who likes me. Either that or I have some serious personality flaw that I am not aware of. Also I have asperger's syndrome if that factors into this at all. I wish I could figure out how to fix this, it is so frustrating especially since I have noticed that I have been losing motivation in other areas of my life as well.

Hi .. Have you joined any groups in college ? You do not realize how lucky you are to be able to go to college . I wish I had the chance to go . I would just try to Finnish college and then find a job and then date . I think college and dating can cause so much drama . What are you studying for in college ?

Have you thought about working with a counselor through your school to see if you can come up with some solutions for this? One nice thing about college is access to all sorts of free services for stuff like this

I do think it gets harder to deal with these things as we get older. People become less forgiving about quirky behavior, in some ways. We are expected to know how to get along. I think it is awesome that you are recognizing this now and trying to work on it.

How far along do you get? I mean, do you find people you are attracted to? Do you ask people out on dates? What is your stumbling block?

Thanks for your replies. Actually I am a member of a lot of clubs. Considerably fewer now that I am a senior but at one point I was part of 15+ clubs on campus. I'm a history major who is planning on getting my doctorate and being a professor so I will be in school for a while

I have considered talking to a counselor about it but I don't have time. Also for some reason it is incredibly difficult for me to ask for help with anything in person. It is always through an anonymous forum like this one. It's been that way since I was little and regarding pretty much everything. As for how I go about trying to find a date it usually goes one of two ways, either way we end up friends first but usually they end up with a boyfriend right before I work up the nerve to ask them out, or if I do ask them out I am usually rejected with the same line word for word talking about how we can still be friends. The problem is that I have no idea how to approach a woman I like as anything else but a friend and even if by some miracle I do find a girl who likes me I honestly would have no clue when it comes to anything after that. Also usually anxiety gets to me when I try to ask someone out in person so I usually do it via text. I don't know if that is a problem or not. I haven't asked a girl out since last February after a particularly discouraging series of events. The more I try the more I seem to screw up with this.

What about online dating? It's not called online friendshipping....

I tried online dating as well for a short period of time. I didn't get any responses

Then you didn't market yourself correctly.

Talk to a friend and have them help you. They can see things in us that we can't see in ourselves.