Urgent - advice needed

Hi Tipper.
Yes you're right. This is the place where such things are known to occur. That, and every other freaky, creepy thing you can possibly imagine.

Even Indians who move abroad never get over that mentality - with husbands beating up wives and what-nots.

Sadly, we are just helpless here. Both girls and guys who are rejected, sometimes take things too far and they don't know what they do next. He has done enough harm to me - yelling at my parents, yelling at me, trying to break the relationship I've with my folks - everything.

He was intending to leave me at the request of his family. But for some reason, both he and his folks never said an outright no, but just dragged the relationship along, till we stopped it. I feel so scared all the time. A wedding is the best thing to happen for anyone, and when he threatens to ruin it... And knowing him, he won't hesitate to bad-mouth me if he got wind that I ever got married.

Honestly, he won't stop till he gets married - which probably won't be for another year or two. But, God alone knows what all he can do to me mentally before that. His target is more of mentally harassing me rather than to physically assault me. Physical harassment can land him in deep trouble. But mental harassment will be hard to put an end to.

That physical harassment CAN land him in deep trouble is very good news. There is a factor then to deter him from tossing acid.

restraining order! what a psycho! also tell your boss! that is harassment and i garuntee you your boss does not want that going on in the workplace. be clear with the ex that if he keeps approaching you there will be serious consequences. and enforce that; don't back off from calling the cops because you're embarassed or intimidated.

True... I am just worried that his mental harassment will cause just as much damage

Hi Strawberry.fields. Despite sounding rude for not accepting your advice dear, I live in India where such things are really quite impossible as I said before ... I just wish I knew how long I need to wait before he gave up harassing me. I don't even know if changing jobs will help me

Sucks - the amount of stress wedding plans are almost on - arranged by family - I should be delighted, but all the stress! Even if my ex has remained silent for a few days now, I am still anxious that he may come anytime!

Will you tell the groom about the ex or rather not?

So, updating further. This guy whose family wanted an arranged marriage - his mother wants more dowry (gifts to the groom in the form of money and gold). When we said that we can't afford so much, they never called us back.

As for my abusive ex, he has been threatening my dad that he will "take care" of my dad for insulting him (no one insulted him). His dad has blocked our phone numbers and we couldn't reach him. So we informed his friend who promised to help. Finally he called my dad and warned him to not call him or his family or friends, and he won't contact us again (hope it lasts).

Anyways, I did inform my bosses and leads at office, and they've promised to help with a location-change, and if things get out of hand, they also have promised to issue a warning to him. It is just so tough on all, especially mom n dad Their fear is that I won't get married. My fear is that I need to keep going through this all my life. I hate being so anxious all the time.