What is it that women really and truly want in a relationship?

1) Money
2) Sex
3) Friend/Confidant

This is multiple choice with NO "All Of The Above"

[kelly8896]

May I ask where you came up with your list of choices?

I think everyone has different opinions on what they want in a relationship. What do you want in a relationship? Do you want one that lasts or are you just in it for a good time? Ask yourself what are the most important tools to achieving a great relationship? Some people feel sex is very important. Just because that isn’t on the top of my list doesn’t mean I’m not very interested in it or that it’s not very important in a relationship.

As a women, I want more than sex or money? I want to feel understood, comfortable to talk about anything and trust in the relationship to open myself to new experiences.
My first choice is communication. As an example, the last guy I dated was great at this, he and I didn’t have a lot of things in common, but we both were interested in discovering each others different interests so it gave us a lot to talk about. Topics included everything, from childhood experiences, to what we did on a typical night, from sex, to future goals.

Second choice, honesty/trust – Same guy- I found out he had dated my sister a couple months prior (just 2 dates). I asked him about it, he played dumb, like he had no clue. My sister and I are twins, We look very much alike. I told him I was a twin, and I told him her name. I feel he wasn’t honest and forthcoming on this matter which really hurt. I had began to become very fond of him. We were both very attracted to each other physically. However honesty is one of the most important tools in a relationship to me and when someone can’t be honest, regardless of how uncomfortable the topic is, that kills it for me. I didn’t have a problem that he dated her, the problem was that he wasn’t honest about it, even when I asked him. I gave him a few days to think about the situation and asked that he share his thoughts, but he continued to play dumb. My gut told me he was lying.

Third choice Friend/partner – if you want a lasting relationship I feel you need to either have common interests or be willing to experience different interests together. You also have to be willing to be equal partners in the relationship, being kind, considerate and willing to do for each other.

Sorry I couldn’t give you a 1, 2, or 3 answer. Relationships are not as simple as that.

Good luck! I hope you find what you are wanting.

[doyoutrustme]

Why do those have to be the only options?

I agree with the others in wondering why these have to be the only options.

The closest for me would be 3) Friend/Confidant I guess, but that simplifies it way too much.

What I really want (in no particular order) is:

1) A sense of safety/trust—I need to feel like I can express emotions and opinions that won't be automatically invalidated and I need to feel like I won't be purposely hurt either emotionally or physically. I also need to know that if I need protection from someone else that they'll protect me. Also, along the lines of what Kelly8896 was saying, I want to be understood and comfortable to talk about anything (which takes a while for me, but I'm getting there).

2) Honesty/Communication—I need to feel like no matter what we're talking about that we can both be as honest and open as possible and that the other person will be supportive of each other despite the answers. And even if we don't agree, that we can always strive to compromise.

3) Love—This pretty much encompasses everything…but having someone you love enough to even make sacrifices that you would never make otherwise is important to me. Having someone who will drop what they're doing to help you when you really need it…having someone who will make changes to their life (like diet for example) in order to give the couple a future is important to me. And of course love is complex and there's a lot more to it that that, but you get the idea.

4) Someone who's clearly both physically and emotionally attracted to me.

Originally Posted by Lmciyah

What is it that women really and truly want in a relationship?

1) Money
2) Sex
3) Friend/Confidant

This is multiple choice with NO "All Of The Above"

Having a tough time?

Funny how u didn't put love ..

Anyways I pic money so we can spend it on trips and stuff together , can't do jack without money .

[emt42]

Love, loyalty, trust, fidelity, stability, excitement, adventure, spontaneity, communication, friendship...those are a few off the top of my head, and not in necessarily any order.

OK. So I'm a simple man. Honesty, loyalty, fidelity,communication, friendship, love, and supportive were in my mind upon writing and included in #3.

I'm certainly very sorry if I offended anyone. Must I explain that further? Ruffled their feathers, ticked them off, bent them out of shape, or got their panties in a wad.

[ptangptang]

Tall, dark and handsome and a bit of a bad boy. Isn't that what they all want. Most women say one thing and mean something else. MY BAD haha ( ducks to avoid flying plates).

[Raindropvampire]

well I married for 3 but if I had it to do over would choose 1. All the love companionship whatever you want to call it doesn't mean squat if you have no quality of life because you are dirt poor.

[Evening]

What I want in a relationship is a connection I have with nobody else, and to be treated in a way I never got to experience growing up- I have always been second best, abused, or not good enough. I want to be worth something to someone. I want to be important to them.



And no, I'm hardly saying one thing and meaning something else....

[BobbyDavis]

Pete Murray or Ronan Keating according to most women I know or if I ask my Mother-In-Law she will say Donny Osmund or David Cassidy.

Seriously, I don’t think you can ask this question on a forum and get a definitive answer because just like blokes every woman is different and has their own different tastes so it all comes down to the individual.

[niceguy]

I always thought that I would marry three time. The first for money. The second for love and the third for companionship. Now ironically, I married for companionship, but my true love (I believe) is still out there and living without me.

You want an answer - wait until you don't have to ask. Only then will you have the answer, because you will have the one.