Communicationlacking from boyfriend...

I've been with my long distance boyfriend for almost a year & a half, but this past month has been very rough for us. We are in love & have had a great relationship despite our relationship being slightly unconventional, but I think the distance is really taking its toll & my insecurities definitely don't help. Besides being unconventional because we only see each other for 4-5 days every 3-4 weeks, we are also in an open relationship. My boyfriend has been married & divorced twice in his 38 years & he never had the chance to really date & experience different women & all that goes along with one sowing their wild oats. So, we decided that safely practiced casual sex with others without any attachments is allowed until we make a more permanent commitment such as, me moving across the state to be with him which is what I eventually want.

Anyway, my boyfriend started a new job last month & is doing a lot of traveling. Recently he's started this thing where he often doesn't reply to my text messages (but can post on Facebook), forgets to call me, & has even forgotten to tell me a few VERY important things while insisting he did tell me. When I tell him that he did not tell me such & such, he says, 'I've talked to so many people lately, I can't remember what I said & who I said it to'. One of the important things he forgot to tell me was that he has to travel for work over NYE so, our holiday plans are now canceled. I think I would've remembered if he had told me that or not.

My boyfriend admits to being tired & stressed out. He also admits that he's feeling bad because he feels like he can't give me what I need in our relationship & committment. I feel like he distancing himself & I actually tried to break up with him the other day. We ended up talking it out & he's promised to be more mindful with me, but I'm still very worried.

Do you think he is having a selective memory with me because of his unsuridy of our relationship & his inability to give me the type of relationship I want from him right now I r am I being too picky & expecting too much from him during this exceptionally busy stressful time?

I think that since he is learning a new job you might want to give him a bit more time to get used to it and give yourself some time to get used to it as well. Long distance relationships are difficult on their own but a new job makes it really tough.

Thank you jelly-bean.

I might be concerned that since you both decided that casual sex is okay for now. Maybe he has found someone that he could be connecting with and it not be just about casual sex anymore?

Just a thought.