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#1
Dec 24, 2014, 05:15 PM
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i am never for sure for sure about him.
i have cheated on him several times, out of uncertainty about him. and i also don't trust his intentions either. after expressing my concerns about trusting him, he called me a hypocrite, and so i asked if he is one too? and he said yes. which just leads me to believe that i am right not to trust him given the whole context of the conversation. anyway we have been together for 10 years already, and we have never learned how to really like/trust/or get along together. i think we both hoped someday we would learn to accept/trust one another. but at this point.. after everything i have been through over this season with my mental health issues.. i have just decided i am sick and tired of being sick and tired, and suffering all the time. so i just have to cut him off. i realize this is christmas eve and very bad timing. but he doesn't celebrate anyway. i gave money for christmas to him, and he used half the money i gave to buy me something, which is fine cause i am not superficial in that way. but then today he wanted more money because he said i made him suffer too much over this holiday season do to my mental health issues not being resolved and do to frequent relapses with alcohol because of my mental health issues. i don't feel this is fair really. i pretend to feel it is fine in order to get along. but i don't. also i couldn't give half the money i gave to him to my brother for xmas because he said it isn't fair to him because what has my brother done for me? he said he suffered too much over this holiday and i owe him. i don't owe him. where is my gift? no where. i don't want it. i am over this. please don't let me forget!!!  ~T+B.G
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#2
Dec 24, 2014, 05:20 PM
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Just go.
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Dec 24, 2014, 06:02 PM
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Dec 24, 2014, 06:05 PM
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Actually I think you should just run.
Sprint as if your life depends on it, 10 years is a long time to waste, don't add another minute to it.  Sounds like you've been to hell and back, you deserve to be happy, please give yourself permission to do so.
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 DXD BP1, BPD & OCPD  "The best way to make it through with hearts and wrists in tact, is to realise, two out of three aint bad" FOB...
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#5
Dec 24, 2014, 07:44 PM
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Just leave.
Sounds like it was a very unstable non trusting relationship in general. Get away from him ! Look into seeing a Therapist to help you process the break up and learning how a healthy , loving ,mutually respectful relationship is like. Best wishes and welcome to PC 
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Dec 24, 2014, 11:00 PM
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10 year is too much.. im 31 and recently left by my ex fiancee... she left for another guy.. and i feel like ive wasted few years for nothing.. but 10 year is too much already.. just go before more time, energy, emotion and something else wasted
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Dec 24, 2014, 11:12 PM
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...non understanding of self made everything feel right..still wanna call 'im
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Dec 24, 2014, 11:53 PM
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I hope you will leave. You deserve better. Hugs.
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Dec 25, 2014, 12:23 AM
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 i still miss him..
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Dec 25, 2014, 01:30 AM
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Nobody is saying don't miss him or you wont miss him. That's normal, we don't just suddenly become robots when we're ready to break away from a SO.
We're saying, move along, move forward, close this door so that another may open. I shudder to think how many opportunities for a happy, healthy relationship have just gone by you in the past 10 years. Relationships based on trust, mutual respect, loyalty and love. Opportunities that most likely went unnoticed by you because you've been too caught up in playing a role, acting as if this relationships works. From what you've written it seems most likely that the energy you have been using to make this look and feel like a worthwhile relationship is actually more than the effort it will take to get over him... life has SO much better to offer you. Really
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DXD BP1, BPD & OCPD "The best way to make it through with hearts and wrists in tact, is to realise, two out of three aint bad" FOB...
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Dec 25, 2014, 02:23 AM
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