He deleted my post on his wall

On the one hand I feel dumb for getting upset over this. On the other hand I can't deny it sorta irks me.
I've been dating this guy for a few months. I posted a "<3" on his wall. That is all. Check back awhile later to find it was gone. I tell him "I was trying to be sweet by posting on your wall, sorry" & he says "I thought it was sweet. It didn't bother me." I say "It surprised me you deleted it" & he says "What do you mean? I didn't delete it."
Facebook does mess up sometimes. Not sure if I believe him or not. He's really sweet. We txt a lot and see each other regularly. I know he has a couple friends that are girls which I didn't think too much about until now.

I just feel like someone who is proud to have you would reply and/or not delete the post. A lot of people say "Facebook is dumb" but I feel like if they really thought that they wouldn't use it. At any rate I deactivated my Facebook because no one on there is worth me getting upset over. Am I overreacting? Lol thanks.
Wish I was a human lie detector.

I think this kind of a post is too personal to place on somebody's wall without asking first. You could have messaged it to him privately and I am sure he would have appreciated it. The deactivation does seem to be a gross overreaction. If he did delete it but would not confirm that to you, I would not call it lying; he might have been embarrassed and did not know how to tell you that you were not welcome to post private messages publicly because he was afraid of hurting your feelings. I would not be surprised if he changes his settings to disallow posts on his wall by anybody other than him.

I would reactivate the FB account but draw a clear boundary between the public and the private messages.

If the bf is proud to have you, he can reveal it by making you his relationship partner on FB - there is such an option. Public love confessions on his wall... on the wedding day they would be appropriate for sure, but now... better stick to PM's.

The bf DOES sound super sweet and I would never mention this incident to him again.

Well, the kind of confusing thing is that you've been dating for a few months. So I would have speculated that it would have been obvious through your posts or his posts that you were together or am I completely wrong about it?

I think the symbol on his wall was placed there with good intent but I'm not sure how he took it. My husband, for instance, can't stand what he calls "lovey dovey" things on facebook. And it irritates him when he sees these love you love you back posts on his friends wall. I don't know. Maybe some men don't see it the way we do.

Regardless of whether it was a FB technical error that it was removed or he removed it I guess will remain unknown. Since you've deactivated your fb account I guess there's not too much point to me suggesting perhaps don't post things like that on his wall unless he's posting something similar on yours.

I'm sorry this has upset you.

Thanks for this - anyone as ignorant as me might find this useful: https://www.facebook.com/pages/The-3...05720619457255

Yeah, most men would squirm at this I think.

To me it seems like saying I Love You...no?

Hmm I guess it's just a red flag to me, like hmm, do I want to be in a realship like this? Do I need to be patient longer? Would I be happy if things stayed the way they are? Nope.
And a lie is a lie no matter how small, & Facebook has never messed up for me before. It's too big a coincidence.

Thanks guys for providing your input & not making me feel dumb.

I have my Facebook set so I have to accept all comments on my wall (some friends would post in appropriate memes and what not) but some times I'll view a coment and forget to accept it to my wall. He may have done that. I wouldn't read to much into it. If he doesn't take you to public places or refuses to be in pictures with you then I'd be worried. Hope it all turns out well.

I agree with hamster-bamster it maybe that a public display of affection embarrasses him. There are many possible explanations for this, as mentioned in other posts. However it is possible that he deleted the post in order to conceal the relationship from other Facebook friends. Concerning that, I would say trust your instincts, if this forms part of a pattern of behaviours which makes you doubt his honesty then you should confront him about those things. But I would echo the advice of other posters; don't rush to a conclusion.

Thank you guys (:

Oh! Grrrr! I don't have time to hang around at that place. But, there is much wisdom here

he said he didn't delete it. The fact that you're assuming the worst and that he indeed did delete it anyway and is lying says a lot about you and your trust in him. You say a few things as if you care about him but the fact that it wasn't enough that he said he didn't delete it speaks otherwise about your security in him.

If your relationship was good, with mutual trust, you'd be like "well that's weird fb must have effed up again" but you're assuming he is lying by posting about it and being as upset as you are. Honestly you should ask yourself why you don't trust him and question whether you want to be with someone you can't believe their word on things.

Just my 2c. Without context as to the rest of your relationship with him I cannot say whether you're overreacting or not, because if he indeed is untrustworthy that says a whole lot more than whether you should be upset at the post being removed.

He hasn't done anything wrong, I think you're worried about it because you're worried he doesn't like you. Have you considered why you're worried about that? He got back in touch and said he thought it was sweet. Sometimes posts disappear on my own wall never mind other people's...Facebook ****s up sometimes.

Because he claims not to have deleted it, you could put the heart up again and see what happens.

Personally, I don't see the big deal in a simple heart on the facebook page of someone you have been dating for a few months. It strikes me as a lovely gesture of affection. But if it truly bothers him, the proper course of action was to speak to you about it, rather than deleting it (if that is what happened) and then lying to you about the deletion (if that is what happened).

I trust my instincts & I'm no longer seeing that guy hahah. (X
Facebook is pretty smart and generally doesn't mess up.. Actually it hasn't ever messed up for me before, unless I was in the woods with a bad connection.
Facebook literally creates algorithms and basically stalks every click you make..
I've been off Facebook ever since and couldn't be happier..
YAY.
Thank you all for your input!

A man who cannot even hold my hand in public is not the man for me..
*Moves on**** (: (:

Good job SqrqhJean!

I am very happy for you, and I admire your strength and self-trust and judgment!

Thank you Bill3 !

I guess I am late to the party, but like someone else said, I have all posts to my wall visible to me only. If you posted a heart on my wall, I would see it, but no one else would.

I saw it there, then I saw it not there.
But it's chill 'cos it was a tiny part of a bigger issue.

Don't post anything like that publicly. I did it once. It didn't work out so well. Whatever. She crushed me 2 years ago and I still haven't recovered.