[Ad Intra]

My brother is very uptight and I have to teach him how to drive.
It takes very little to make him overwhelmed. When explaining things to him you have to talk slowly and clearly. If you ask him to do two things at once he'll explode with anger because he is overwhelmed (like talk on the phone and order something off line).
This causes issues when teaching him how to drive. He has a hard time turning the car because he doesn't turn the wheel in one fluid motion and when I make advice he pouts and becomes angry. This is one example.
He'll cry, become passive aggressive, raise his voice and pouts the whole time I'm teaching him. Then he becomes more passive agressive when you correct him or try to show him how to do it. BTW he's 20.

[unaluna]

Where are you teaching him to drive? When i learned to drive, they had a special driving area, a big lot, where you practice each driving skill, like turning, parking, backing up, etc. Can you find an empty parking lot where he could practice turning, etc, until he does it more smoothly? Also tell him he needs to pretend that you are the driving TESTER giving him instructions, so when the time comes, he automatically responds appropriately - his calm reactions will be connected to his driving skills. Otherwise he will pout in front of the tester and may fail for attitude.

[Crazy Hitch]

Oh dear. Good on you for stepping up to the plate and willingly teaching him how to drive. That's very kind of you really. How difficult though, when you are there to "teach" him but he seems to reject when you show him the best possible way. What's the chances of him going through a driving school? This must be very unnerving for you.

[hamster-bamster]

I am with Hooligan - outsource this to the driving school, even if you have to pay them. Outsourcing will benefit your relationship with the brother.

Plus, it is simply safer this way. You know, driving is not crocheting...