i find it hard to say that i love someone.. i can rite it but i just cant say it to them
my bf tells him not too often but often enuff that it still means something but i struggle to say it back
and i do love him
at least i think this is what it feels like
i dont know
im so confused
im sure i love him i do i just cant say it
is it cos im scared to be in love
do i think hes gonna leave me
omg why why do i do this
i do not want to sabotage this
i do not want to ruin this
i love him why cant i just tell him that

[greenpunkergirl]

you figured it out yourself. I struggle with those same feelings, and I understand that it is because I am insecure, and the only way you'll ever be able to say it is if you come to terms with those feelings, realize that love is a %#@&#! shoot, and that if you're willing to play, you have to be willing to pay. There is a chance, that if you say something like I love you, that not now, since he is saying it, but one day down the line, there may be a break up, and the love you feel now will turn into heartbreak. As long as you are willing to accept that, then you can say those words in full confidence that you mean them, and give this reletionship a real chance.

I used to have the same problem. I just couldn't say those three words! I got very anxious and felt too vulnerable to say them, I think. Since 1 ½ year back in time I've forced myself to learn to say those words and now after a lot of "hard work", I can say them without almost fainting.
I've actually been helped by coming to this site and seen people show emotions by expressing feelings in words. Also by starting to write poetry, I've opened up much more.
Therapy- getting to know myself, has also helped me.

You'll get there, hon! Pm me anytime!

[InACorner]

those words are very precious...and shouldnt be used lightly...i know it must be terribly difficult as you have mentioned...but i assure you when you do find that you want to say i love you it will be a diamond for him....he will take it and treasure it and treasure you. If he knows you well enough he will understand...and he will be patient....just give yourself time..because if you say it when you dont want to it might be harder to deal with that then with actually saying it....good luck love, Inny

[MadKitty]

saying i love you shouldnt be said cos the other party has said it. you have to say it and mean it - you will just know, and when the time is right - those 3 BIG words will flow easy, naturally

[sujunew]

I never had a problem saying "I love you" to my ex, but it is something that is never said between my parents and me. My mother will sign letters and (most) emails with it, and dad will too, but when we talk on the phone or I go to stay with them it is rarely, if ever said. I don't know why...it is definitely a learned thing, and obviously between my parents and me... but I do know that I tell my daughters many times a day how much I love them. I also struggle saying those 3 words to anyone else e.g. friends- I have one close friend who always says that to me and I just cannot say it back...