[Gymgirl71]

Basically, I just ended things with this guy not too long ago and now I am second guessing myself. I saw him for 2.5 months. At first everything was great and he was talking to me consistently, etc. Then he was acting "off" not answering my calls, taking several hours to respond, going MIA on the weekends for hours. He would always give me this extravagant excuse so I know it was a load of bull. Then he would text me before 9:00 PM and I could tell he was just trying to get rid of me. He gets up at 4 so I thought it was feasible but I could tell he was just trying to get me off his back. Then right after we slept together (stupid move) he started dwindling...takes a full day to answer a text, say he would call and never does, etc. I got sick of it so I basically told him off. At that point I knew he was a player. I haven't tried to get in touch in 5 days. He is a master manipulator and I am sure he thinks I am going to get in touch and apologize for over reacting like I always did. Even when I found him on a dating site trolling (we were supposed to be exclusive) he made it like it was my fault. The only reason I was on there was because I had a gut feeling. But then he told me I just as much at fault.

Anyways so today I am thinking over it and wondering if I did the right thing or if I over reacted. I do not think I did only because he was acting like a flake and being dishonest. I tend to give men too many chances and then afterwards I obsess over it and then tend to take them back and the cycle repeats.

I made an appointment to see a therapist next month. I am just afraid if I don't do something I will never be happy. I repeat the same patterns. The fact that this guy made me anxious the last month tells me that my gut was telling me something was very wrong and I chose to ignore it.

Any thoughts on this?

[Ruftin]

Gymgirl71...I always say go with your gut instinct. It doesn't sound like you have overreacted at all.

I think you hit the nail on the head, when you said he is a manipulator. You deserve much better.

You've already realized you tend to second guess yourself, don't give this guy any more chances. You will find someone one day who will treat you with kindness and respect. Don't give up on yourself, and don't ignore your feelings.

I hope your T can give you some support in letting this one go.

[CosmicRose]

I don't think he's waiting for you to get back in touch with him and apologize, I think he's a player that doesn't care at all. He doesn't sound like a manipulator, he sounds like a typical jerk who got what he wanted and lost interest.
You did the right thing. No, he's not waiting for you to call him again, he probably forgot about the entire thing and now he's onto using another girl and tossing her out in 2.5 months too.

Ditch him, forget him, move on, get a man who treats you like a queen.

[divine1966]

Trust me you don't want s guy who takes a day to respond to a text or says he'll call and never does.

He might be waiting for you to call so he can manipulate you some more. Move on and don't look back.

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[~Christina]

What happened with him is sadly enough is pretty common, guys are all attentive to get some , well then they trail off. I'm sorry you met a lousy human being like him, but to be honest I bet damn near everyone on the planet has a situation like this.

I think seeing a T is a wonderful idea. It's often hard to follow our "gut instinct" but it's always right in the end..

I'm sorry he has hurt you this way, But move forward , you did the right thing !