[Mc4life95ci]

Hi i am almost positive my gf has DID that im in a long distance relationship with.I have always been into psychology and want to become a psychologist. I have talked to multiple personalities some angry,some that seem jealous, and two i spoke too speak Japanese and one doesnt speak much english.Im trying my best to be there for them all but sometimes im not sure if im being tested by some of them.One took over and said that my gf was hers and that my gf is nothing and that im hers.She did let my gf hear my voice when she asked to before which i thanked her for.Another time a alter said said my gf was gone like her personality was dead which hurt and freaked me out but i found that wasnt true.Another i talked to said theres 98 alters not sure if its true or just testing me to see if i would leave but the personality seemed to like me.Yesterday i talked to another alter that said humanity should be destroyed and i tried my best and told her that i can see why you think that and cant imagine what must of happened to you. i Told her she can tell me anything that im there for them all. Also said that she is going to more than likely see me in person and she actually seemed to not mind me then she switched.Some alters were arguing i think over me and i told them im there for them all and that i at least have some time to talk to the one im in a relationship with which i think they let her talk to me whiched i thanked them.I also told them that they are all important to me and they can talk to me. I hope im doing alright with this i refuse to abandon them. My gf also cant go to therapy because of her parents are controlling which when i go to see her im gonna meet them. She also has had weird delusions. Please give me any advice as long as its not leaving her because i wont do that to her or any of the alters. I'm also wondering how can she stop the pains she gets which seem to happen after she switches like really bad head pain. Also i have a fear of something happening to the main host who I know the most and goes by her name her parents call her by.can any alters take over completely and I never get to talk to her again?or am I worrying too much?and what if a alter takes over and hates me and breaks up with me?then what If she comes back sometime later after everything? I don't think the girl I know the most is gonna go anywhere becuase she also has a kid she told me she only cares about her son and me. I'm just trying my best, also one of the alters told me about a alter that is a shifter and was saying that he's evil although I talked to him and told him I can't imagine what happened to you but I dont blame you for hating humanity after what must of happened to you.im trying my best to get to know them when they show up and show them they can tell me anything without me judging them that I'm there for all of them.

[pegasus]

Hello Mc4life95ci,

Well, your girlfriend is very lucky to have you. You sound very kind and supportive. Really the best help you can give her is that support you are giving but ultimately she needs psychotherapy.

As for your questions... No the host will not disappear completely though an alter may take over for a time. Will an alter break up with you? Possibly if she does not trust you, has never met you... but the host will come back at some point and all will be ok again, you might find then that the alters start to accept you. I am talking in general terms but please be advised that everyone's experience is different.

It is likely that your girlfriend has been through some horrendous abuse, please remember to take care of you.

[Mc4life95ci]

Thanks im trying my best.Oh alright thats good to know ive talked to a few alters already which some are pretty nice. I tell them im here for them all.I also thank them for helping my gf so she doesnt have to remember bad things that happened.I cant imagine what shes been through and it saddens me and angers me that horrendous things have happened to her.I just want to support her and the alters and make sure nothing bad happens to them again.I know it wont be easy but im gonna stick by them because they deserve love by someone who cares and will support them.

[Mc4life95ci]

Also if anyone reads this that has this disorder just wanna say sorry that you all have been through so much and cant imagine what its like and i hope your lives get better.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by Mc4life95ci

Hi i am almost positive my gf has DID that im in a long distance relationship with.I have always been into psychology and want to become a psychologist. I have talked to multiple personalities some angry,some that seem jealous, and two i spoke too speak Japanese and one doesnt speak much english.Im trying my best to be there for them all but sometimes im not sure if im being tested by some of them.One took over and said that my gf was hers and that my gf is nothing and that im hers.She did let my gf hear my voice when she asked to before which i thanked her for.Another time a alter said said my gf was gone like her personality was dead which hurt and freaked me out but i found that wasnt true.Another i talked to said theres 98 alters not sure if its true or just testing me to see if i would leave but the personality seemed to like me.Yesterday i talked to another alter that said humanity should be destroyed and i tried my best and told her that i can see why you think that and cant imagine what must of happened to you. i Told her she can tell me anything that im there for them all. Also said that she is going to more than likely see me in person and she actually seemed to not mind me then she switched.Some alters were arguing i think over me and i told them im there for them all and that i at least have some time to talk to the one im in a relationship with which i think they let her talk to me whiched i thanked them.I also told them that they are all important to me and they can talk to me. I hope im doing alright with this i refuse to abandon them. My gf also cant go to therapy because of her parents are controlling which when i go to see her im gonna meet them. She also has had weird delusions. Please give me any advice as long as its not leaving her because i wont do that to her or any of the alters. I'm also wondering how can she stop the pains she gets which seem to happen after she switches like really bad head pain. Also i have a fear of something happening to the main host who I know the most and goes by her name her parents call her by.can any alters take over completely and I never get to talk to her again?or am I worrying too much?and what if a alter takes over and hates me and breaks up with me?then what If she comes back sometime later after everything? I don't think the girl I know the most is gonna go anywhere becuase she also has a kid she told me she only cares about her son and me. I'm just trying my best, also one of the alters told me about a alter that is a shifter and was saying that he's evil although I talked to him and told him I can't imagine what happened to you but I dont blame you for hating humanity after what must of happened to you.im trying my best to get to know them when they show up and show them they can tell me anything without me judging them that I'm there for all of them.

a few questions .,....

have you actually met this girl face to face? if not beware of dating scams many people out there on the net are not who and what they say they are. Scammers will say anything to try and sdraw you in and then cause you problems....

you said in this post she cant get therapy but yet I read your other posts stating she is getting ECT. in order for someone to be getting ect they have to have been in therapy of some kind. you cant just walk in to a hospital and get ECT. its administered after a mental health treatment provider during therapy has said the patient needs it. or during therapy while in a hospital and its not something that is the first treatment option. ECT is a therapeutic treatment option after therapy and meds have failed to help or the therapist/psychiatrist feels it will help in conjunction with meds and therapy.

Ive read your other posts and I cant help but to tell you what you posted about this girl says to me that you may not have all the information.
for example in order for a parent to control what an adult does for treatment like therapy is if the court has decided this adult is not capable of understanding and making decisions about herself and her mental health. in short the court has declared this adult unable to take care of herself. if this is the case you dont have to worry about the alters stopping your contact. her parents can also do so.

If this was me I would not be in this situation simply because there are too many red flags and conflicting information.

Love her, support her, hold nothing against her, be strong, be understanding and caring, be her man.

[Mc4life95ci]

Thanks that's what I'm doing now which is why I'm on here so I can learn and better support her. Ya I won't hold anything against her that wouldn't be fair.

Originally Posted by Mc4life95ci

Thanks that's what I'm doing now which is why I'm on here so I can learn and better support her. Ya I won't hold anything against her that wouldn't be fair.

There isn't a manual on all this, and everybody that I've met has been ruint because they didn't care. But they didn't know what they got! Lol I've destroyed more stupid relationships because these idiots think they can get lovey dovey on someone. We crave excitement, daring, mystery, unknown, forbidden, all the fun stuff. So good luck with her, just be glad it isn't me. Luv

I love your dedication to her, you are a gem. Good luck with her, your special.

Lol. All thats me. I've never been on here before, just the other alters. I'll be nice. She needs therapy, only cure for DID. I just love your dedication hun. If I had your number, hmmm

[tipou48]

My advice
Things like putting yourself out there or asking someone out on a date, just the simplicity of having a conversation with a stranger can be really terrifying, but if you follow your fear and say 'yes' to a situation or opportunity or person, sometimes you will find yourself in a really great place, with really great people, with really great opportunities, that you could have never seen for yourself before."
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