Unrealistic Friendship Expectations

As we get older and our lives changes people don't have as much time for friendships. I'm not married, I don't have children and right now I'm not working. That means I have a lot of free time! How often is it realistic to expect to see people you consider a real friend? I have one friend I saw once in August last year because I planned a girls outing. She will respond if I text her but otherwise doesn't contact me. Another I saw once in 2014 but I talk to on the phone once or twice a month. A 3rd I've seen twice since last summer and talk to once a month. Finally a 4th that lives out of state. She monitors all her incoming calls and usually won't answer if I call her. If she's having a problem she'll email and call me and get upset if I haven't read the email to prep for the phone call I didn't know was coming.

I get that these people are busy with their lives but is this what friendship looks like? I feel frustrated but I don't say anything because I'm trying to be understanding and a good friend.

Uh i got that feeling, i also feel like that about "friendship" things
Seem like they only contacted me whenever they have nobody else around or just bored in their free time.
I hate it when i really need to talk to a friend about something important because i feel like my world is crashing down but they act like i don't exist until their problems occur. Among all my close friends, only 1 person is care and be able to notice whenever i get into trouble.

Seems like good friends would see one another more often than you are describing. Maybe you need to find some new people.

I've learned that doing things in groups like a book club, exercise class, volunteer work, or knitting circle, etc. puts you in contact with people regularly without having to schedule anything. Within those groups you eventually find like-minded people and gravitate to them.

I agree with Little Lulu. It's time to broaden your pool of people to do stuff with!

I have some friends that I only see once a year, some once every few months. My closer friends I only see once a month or once every two weeks. I think I tend to prefer less contact than most other people do.

If you need more having others to do things with types of friends ,then perhaps expand on friendships.

I'm raising a family and some of my closest friends are out of state. Two weeks ago, a couple friends and I finally met up at lunch time, after trying to coordinate plans for a couple of months. I don't doubt the friendships I just doubt that there's enough hours in the days...

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