[blitzerr]

Kindly go through the below conversation and post your views about the psychology of the boy and the girl . Kindly be unbiased irrespective of gender .

[04/04 13:41]boy :its funny ..lol ..how desperately i have been trying to get into ur home somehow and how well u r dodging my attempts .
[04/04 13:45] girl : Uuuh
[04/04 13:45] girl : Im like that
[04/04 13:45] girl : I cant be bothered to entertain ppl
[04/04 13:45] girl : So many want to come
[04/04 13:46] girl :Im ok if ppl only come and chill
[04/04 13:46] girl :But if i have to run up and down and god knows what it bothers me
[04/04 13:46] Boy : No ..kill me .. this word ..when u use it in my context put me in depression.. PEOPLE
[04/04 13:47] Girl : Well ppl r ppl
[04/04 13:48] Boy : No .. no .no .. i promise to never ask again to come if u promise never to use this word on me . I absolutely hate it .
[04/04 13:49] Girl : Its not abt me not wanting ppl to come
[04/04 13:50] Girl : If they come in a casual way im ok
[04/04 13:51] Girl : But if i have to arrange things then i have no time or energy really
[04/04 13:51] Girl : My friend .... comes whenever he wants
[04/04 13:51] Boy : Tell abt me ..did i ever asked u to arrange anything for me . So why u bracketing me with them
[04/04 13:52] Boy : Last thing i want is to be a problem for u
[04/04 14:00] Boy : The thing tht troubles me is ..why u have to say things in third person to make a point abt u and me . It doesnt make sense .
[04/04 14:00] Girl : This is only how u see itm
[04/04 14:01] Boy : No dear .
[04/04 14:03] Girl : God
[04/04 14:03] Girl : Who stopped u from coming?
[04/04 14:05] Boy: No one . And its nt that imp also . Just tht ..dont bracket me with others .. i dnt care what they do . Its a request . Tell me straight if u feel i am dng anything wrong .. or u dont like something abt me . Just dont use third person examples
[04/04 14:10] Girl: Its a rather normal way of talking ....
[04/04 14:14] Boy: Hmm it is when there is no context . If u r just telling me abt how ppl behave its ok . But sorry to say .. i find it rather insulting . I hope ..if u consider me a good friend ..can consider nt using it with me.
[04/04 14:22] Boy: And this example only works if i behave like them when at ur home. I cant recall anything but sitting and chatting . It was always casual .
[04/04 14:28] Boy: Ill call u at night . It always gets worse on chat .
[04/04 14:46] Girl : Sigh
[04/04 14:51] Boy :
[04/04 15:01] Girl : I just feel u r very dramatic.
[04/04 15:01] Girl : U know me better than that.
[04/04 15:02] Girl : So no need to read in strange meanings into my words.
[04/04 15:09] Boy : Yeah i guess , shakespear i was and tempest i wrote . Umm .. this thing had happnd b4 too . Thing abt ppl .. two or three times if u rem . But thing is i dont see a point in reaching the left ear with right hand when left hand can easily do the job . Right ? . We need to simplify things in our world not complicate them .
[04/04 15:34] Boy : Anyways ... ❤

[kaliope]

hi blitzerr
it sounds to me that the girl is talking in generalizations, people in general and the boy wants her to speak specifically to their relationship and appears offended and defensive that she will not discuss it. He appears frustrated that she doesnt get his point and he is not picking up on the fact that she has no desire to speak in specifics. she does not strike me as a people person who enjoys the company of others much. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

It is a typical young person conversation - I have no idea what it means, and that is how it should be.

[healingme4me]

He sounds pushy. Hard to say if she only expresses herself using 'ppl', as in not wanting to entertain ppl if ppl come over, each time they interact. Otherwise, there's not much to go on, to understand the wants or intentions of the girl. Uugh sounds frustrated, however, when used in that context.

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[troubledinlove]

I have no idea that that conversation was about, what led up to it and it sounds like the boy was being just as confusing as the girl. She used generalizations and he used flowery language when both should just say what they mean:

Boy: When you say people do you mean me?
Girl: Yes, I am not in the mood for a guest.
Boy: I wish you would just say that...
Girl: I was worried if I did I would hurt your feelings and that was not my intention.

SIMPLE!

[Ruftin]

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I feel that both the girl and the boy need to be direct, open, honest and respectful of each other.

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[ChipperMonkey]

I don't think you can psychoanalyze a text conversation. They are usually about as deep as a puddle and show only a MICROSCOPIC sliver of a person's true being.

In short, pick up the phone and have a conversation....