[Ad Intra]

So I can be rude. Often my grandmother will ask me something and I'll snap back an answer. For example five minutes ago she asked me if I wanted her to get up early to make me cinnamon rolls. She had already taken her sleeping medication and was stumbling when she came to ask me this.
Me: "No."
Her: "Are you sure?"
Me: "Yes."
Her: "Now I don't mind making them for you."
Me: "I said no."
Her: "How about I make them for you Saturday."
Me: "If I tell you no, I mean it. I don't like cinnamon rolls and I'm on a diet. Thank you but no thank you."

I basically have to say 'I said no', for her to leave me alone about things like this.

[Ruftin]

(((Ad Intra))) I don't think you're abusing her. You're just being firm. Your grandma sound like mine. So sweet to the point of suffocation. I love her already. I know you do too or you wouldn't be concerned. Perhaps next time just to clarify, you could say to grandma, "I don't mean to be rude, but I said no thank you."

[Caroline33]

That's a grandma. Try to see where she's coming from. She wants to be useful and needed. Think of something else she can do for you that doesn't involve calories. I'm sure she'll be thrilled.

I don't think you're being rude, but her intent is obviously good if a little irritating, so be gentle with her.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Caroline33

That's a grandma. Try to see where she's coming from. She wants to be useful and needed. Think of something else she can do for you that doesn't involve calories. I'm sure she'll be thrilled.

I agree about coming up with other suggestions for quality time.

I am curious why asked if this is abusive, where'd that word come from?

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[Ad Intra]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

I agree about coming up with other suggestions for quality time.

I am curious why asked if this is abusive, where'd that word come from?

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I'm afraid of becoming like my abuser.

[A Red Panda]

I think she's trying to show you that she cares for you. If she likes to cook or bake.... can you maybe say "Ok, so I don't like X... but I did really like Y, could you make some of those? I'll take them in to work and share them." Then you could take them in to work, eat a little bit, share them.... and then go home and let your grandma know how much everyone at work loved them! Extra praise for her right there.