Forever alone?

I am a 28 year old male and have been single for most of my life. I live alone, I do everything alone and im quite sick of it. I want a relationship, someone I can be there for and someone to be there for me. I have had relationships in the past but all have ended for the same reason, they either cheat or break up because I am not outgoing enough or some other stupid reason. I have seen all of my ex gf's going out with other guys and it kills me. It makes me "wonder why wasn't I good enough for her" or "what does this guy have that I didn't". I go home and sit and ponder on the matter for many hours before finally just getting depressed and going to bed. I am afraid that this is going to continue for the rest of my life and I will end up alone.

So why don't you try to go out? A little at a time. You must socialize with people because you meed women. Is there a reason you don't like to go out?

The area I am in just about the only thing to do is go to the bars, im not really into the bar scene. No party's at friends houses or anything as well because the few friends I do have are older and married. Im not sure where to go to even try to meet someone

A good friend of my dad never had a serious GF until he was 42. I watched him date the EXACT same type over and over hoping for a different result and it never happened. Finally he met a very nice lady who was a homebody just like him. She is even a Hammer Horror buff just like he is. I know for a fact that he'd given up hope of ever meeting someone. He'd be so desperate for company there were times he'd call me to see if I wanted to hang out or just chitchat. You know you are desperate for company when you are calling your friend's kids to hang out. Then at one of his horror conventions BAM!! he met this this lady and she was the total opposite of what he'd always gone for. 10 years later they are still together. I truly believe there's always hope for finding someone.

At 28 years old youre at the perfect age to meet someone that is looking to settle down and focus on a family rather than be "outgoing" and have a ton of friends/parties.

Im a 21 year old virgin, and like you ive been around girls awhile but never found any that will stay longer than a few months. So i definitely know the feeling of "ill never find anyone" and it sucks!

But like others have said its really important for you to start going out more. Doesnt even really matter what it is. Most of the times when ive meet someone that led to a date, i was never expecting it, but if i hadnt gone out i wouldve never had the opportunity!

I wish the best of luck to you!

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You're discounting your ex-girlfriends' wishes as "stupid." They're not. That's a very good reason to break up with someone. A person's social life can be ruined by being tied to a partner who is a stick in the mud. Also, girls want a guy who cares what they want to do.

You're lucky that you keep getting new chances. That means you must be a reasonably attractive guy. So you will get another chance. This pattern can continue for the rest of your life, if you let it. Sitting at home pondering is not going to help.

Next time you start a relationship, come right out and tell the girl: "I tend to avoid socializing, and I know it's a bad habit. Feel free to prod me, if that's what it takes to get me moving. I want us to do things that make you happy."

Also, ask yourself if being unsociable is the real problem. First you say it is and, then, you say you wonder what other guys have that you don't. What do you think they may have going for themselves that you don't?

Another thing: Ask yourself if you don't tend to make up flimsy excuses for your lifestyle . . . like saying that your friends don't entertain because they are married. And it's not true that there is absolutely nothing else to do, but go to bars.

It is sad to be alone, but there's always an alternative, if you don't expect things to always be on your terms.

You are young and there is time to get yourself together but you must concentrate on you first of all.