[Darkangel19]

I've been told I play word games, maybe I do, not intentionally but maybe I don't realize it, I don't know anymore. I've been told I lie (makes me wonder if I do lie but don't realize it, cause I've caught myself, but I believe what I'm saying at the time, well whatever) Also a lot of times I mean something in a good way, and it sounds completely the opposite, or I say something and I'm just paranoid it was misunderstood even if it wasn't. I'm terrified to talk anymore, it seems like my biggest insecurity lately. Like no matter what, it's bad, either really, or just in my mind. I'm so happy I found this site cuz I hate bottling things up and I've been bottling so much up for a while I feel like I can finally get everything out there anonymously to like minded people without "the real world" nit picking at everything I say. Anyone else relate to this??

I can't relate to all of it, but I frequently am told that I take what people say too literally. It can cause me to misunderstand their meaning.

I don't mean that I don't understand when someone is exaggerating or using a metaphor. I can't think of a good example. I just know that it has caused me problems and it especially seemed to irritate guys I dated. I would tend to ask "Do you mean x?" when I wasn't sure exactly what they were trying to say. One guy said that he felt like I did it to belittle him.

It can be very frustrating and upsetting when you are trying to communicate and things don't get across the way you intend for them to.

[findingmy_self95]

I know exactly what you mean. It's so hard to talk at all after people tell you these things because you're worried everything that comes out of your mouth will be the same and you just don't know how to stop doing it. You think you're just talking but then things come out and you wonder, did I just lie about that or where did that come from? That wasn't even the truth. You word things wrong and they come out wrong and you regret ever saying anything in the first place.

[tearsinabottle]

Darkangel, maybe you have just been believing what you said in the moment to be true ( as this is what you say ) and this can happen to all of us. Later we find out or get told that it wasnt or isnt so but we did believe it when we said it. It can be that our brain mess with us a little at that moment and we are not aware that what we said is not right or true. It has happened to me too sometimes and when I find out that what I said, ( for example giving information about something ) is not correct I feel I shouldnt have said what I said or think why did I say that. If this is the case with you there is always ok to say to them you thought you were right when you werent and just say sorry about that ( if they ask why you lied or said that ). Then good people and friends will understand.

Its something different to lie and be aware of it.