[UCLAFan]

I'm the type of person that tries to be nice to everyone.But at times i get hurt and people expect way to much from me. I can never be late to meet people etc.But most can be late and if i complain.People get nasty with me and complain i'm not accepeting them as they are. I listen to peoples problems.But if i need to vent. Those same people i listen to are not there for me when i need them. When i say No to people.People tell me but you did it before.Some people i won't hear from for months.Than out of the blue they call me and it ends up they want me to do a favor for them.What can i do so people don't take advantage of me?I have tried to let people know i'm tired of always doing things for them and not being apperciated and being taken advantage of. Because of all this. I have grown weary of hanging out with people and meeting new people.I have become a bit of a loner off and on the last few years.

[seeker1950]

I think if these "friends" are not reciprocal in their responses to you when you need feedback on a problem, they are probably not very good friends.
My true friends are few, and I am probably a textbook case in the past three years of loner and secluding myself. To me, this is not a bad thing. I do have a few friends whom I trust, and who stay by me.
At some point, one has to start to DISCERN..(it's really a spiritual and biblical term to me!), but meaning trusting your inner voice about who is a true friend or partner!
Love
Patty

[UCLAFan]

Why do i attrack User? That's what i'd like to know. So i can fix that.

[SeptemberMorn]

To me, your friends and aquaintances don't sound that far out of the ordinary. Some are going to push the envelope because "if you don't ask, you don't know." But it sounds like you may be holding your boundaries when you say "no" to them. Sometimes you can, sometimes you can't and maybe it's them that need to learn that. As for accepting them the way they are, that's a good thing. Next time they ask you why you don't, ask them the same question in return.

You are the one that teaches people how to treat you. There's no need to withdraw unless one or two in particular really tax you.

[UCLAFan]

Most tax me. I can be sick in bed all day. If i don't answer the phone to listen to their Bs problems right away. They call 5 or 6 times in less than an hour.Then complain i'm not there for them. Most of people i know are needy and annoying.