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Apr 28, 2007, 08:57 PM
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I dont love my husband but Im afraid to leave. Any advice?
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Apr 28, 2007, 10:08 PM
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That question is too short for such a big answer ...what I mean is I'd need to know a lot more to try to help.
What are your fears? Are you afraid of him or add on the fears of leaving someone and not knowing what to do from there? See where I'm going with this?
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Apr 29, 2007, 11:18 AM
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welcome to PC
 im with my girl Eva on this, why are you afraid to leave? Lost/Vanessa |
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Apr 29, 2007, 10:29 PM
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I know this is selfish but I'm afraid to have to support myself and I'm afraid to break up our family(3kids). I married him for all the wrong reasons and stayed with him for the kids.
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Apr 30, 2007, 06:44 AM
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well your being very honest, maybe thats the first step you are taking in changing things??? I wish you luck.
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Apr 30, 2007, 10:23 AM
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Hello and welcome to Psych Central. Is therapy available for you at this time. A therapist can help you sort out all the feelings and problems you are having at this time. Since there are children involved then decisions are not going ot be as easy to make as if you were alone and just making decisions for yourself. I hope things get better for you soon. Take care of yourself. Soidhonia
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Apr 30, 2007, 12:36 PM
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Welcome to PC!
I think we need more information to help you. You indicated that you married for all the wrong reasons - what do you consider these? Stayed with him for the kids...I stayed with my wife for 3 years additional for that same reason. Love is a funny thing in marraige...Have the two of you talked about this. Love can come and go in a marraige...something no one seems to really talk about. Have the two of you beeen to counseling? I used divorce as an absolute last choice...I do have a lot of information I can help you with if you truly believe you have exhausted all other possibilities...
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Apr 30, 2007, 03:31 PM
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Looks like two "halves" so I'd pick one and work on it? Either work on staying/leaving or work on loving yourself and/or your husband? It depends on what you want to change?
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May 03, 2007, 09:51 PM
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It is not a matter of love coming and going--it was never there. I married him knowing this but thinking I could just get a divorce. What can I say, I was 23 and really dumb at the time. I had a son from a previous relationship and a strong desire to settle down and have more kids. He had a good job, wanted to marry me and he treated me well. Now that I am older, that just doesn't seem to be enough. I want someone I that laughs at my jokes, that doesn't take life so seriously, someone who wants the same things I want. Someone who is not %#@&#! retentive , who has a positive outlook on life.
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May 04, 2007, 09:58 AM
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How long have you been married? If you really don't want to break up your family, then you owe it them ( your kids) to at least seek counseling and do everything to try and save the marriage. They didn't ask to brought into this family, you made that choice.
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