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you're welcome, Patty.........it was posted to be supportive and provide some information. i appreciate those who can see the value of posting it. xoxoxo pat

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Old May 08, 2007, 10:20 PM
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Ten Red Flags
Jeff Herring, a marriage and family therapist, and an internationally syndicated relationship columnist (Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services) identifies ten warning signs of an impending emotional affair:

1) Thinking or saying, "We're just friends."

If you have caught yourself thinking or saying, "but we're just friends," you are probably already in trouble. "But we're just friends" are four of the most dangerous words for a relationship. These words are usually said to rationalize something you know is wrong. Rationalize is also spelled "rational lies."

2) Thinking and daydreaming about the person more and more often

This should be a loud, screaming clue. Do you think and day dream about your regular friends in this way?

3) Looking forward to the next time you can see and/or talk to the person

If you feel excitement and anticipation, a quickening of your pulse, as you get ready to see this person, watch out.

4) Wanting to tell them first when something happens in your day

This means that this person has become your primary emotional confidant.

5) Sharing intimate emotions

This flows naturally from this person being your primary emotional confidant. Because emotional affairs can be harder to break than purely physical ones, you can get trapped right here.

6) Sharing intimate problems

Especially dangerous if you are sharing problems in your marriage or relationship with this other person.

7) You believe that this person understands you much more than your spouse

Of course it looks like they do. That is part of the illusion of the affair. This belief draws you away from your partner and toward the other person.

8) Keeping secrets and covering up

Secrets bond two people together against a third person.

9) Giving gifts you would not normally give to a friend

Things to wear, jewelry, and other intimate gifts come with a message: we are very close.

10) Spending more and more time alone

I've heard so many people tell me that this was the one that pushed them over the edge. They had promised themselves that nothing would happen, but the temptation and availability of time alone was too much to resist.
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since this has come up in the forum, i thought i'd share this......pat

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1) Thinking or saying, "We're just friends."

My personal provider IS my friend. She's a female.

3) Looking forward to the next time you can see and/or talk to the person

If you feel excitement and anticipation, a quickening of your pulse, as you get ready to see this person, watch out.


This applies to my personal provider, too.

4) Wanting to tell them first when something happens in your day

Sometimes, yes, especially if it concerns my family

6) Sharing intimate problems

OOOPS again!

7) You believe that this person understands you much more than your spouse

She certainly does... because she listens, which is something my spouse is too self-centered to do.

So... I've got half of the symptoms of an "emotional affair." Are there any sexual undertones? No! Am I having an "emotional affair"? You call it! Ten Signs of an "Emotional Affair"................. I'm not gay but I do love this woman. She IS my FRIEND! Ten Signs of an "Emotional Affair".................

Are PSISCI and I having an "emotional affair" with our dogs? Ten Signs of an "Emotional Affair"................. Maybe! We've got very dear buddies that won't betray us if their life depended on it!

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Sept, I do not know if you are trying to joke or mocking Pat's thread. Can you enlighten us on how this is supportive.
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Old May 08, 2007, 10:48 PM
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Ten Signs of an "Emotional Affair"................. Ten Signs of an "Emotional Affair"................. Ten Signs of an "Emotional Affair".................
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Old May 08, 2007, 11:25 PM
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Due to the personal issue that's come to the public forum, as well as the upsets, I'm going to go ahead and close this thread to further response.

Thanks,

KD
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