[fatallygorgeous85]

i dont know what to do anymore. my on again off again boyfriend of over 2 years was diagnosed with bipolar about 10 years or so ago. i knew this in the very beginning of the relationship. i have survived with outburts and manic stages and still stand by him today. he switches jobs all the time. i think he has had like 7 or 8 jobs in 2 years. i can deal with all of that. i can deal with the fighting. but its getting really hard to cope with losing him every 2 months. in two years he has never stayed with me longer than two months. its like its almost planned. he isnt on medication because he keeps swapping jobs and doesnt stay long enough to get benifits so he has no insurance to go to a dr or get on anything to help him.

we will fuss and fight and i try so hard not to but its hard to trust anything he says anymore. he goes from loving me and wanting to get married and talk about having a baby and a month later he talks about me like im this horrible person and puts me down to other people. then he will leave and move on to the next girl. he says he jumps around because he cant be alone but he doesnt understand that i am here for him and not going anywhere.

i think about it from a standpoint that he is useing me as a security blanket that he can just run back to and ill take him back everytime. when we split the longest he will stay away is about a week. but he still will talk to me and text me and tell me he cares about me but his bipolar is acting up so he needs his space and then eventually he comes back after i pull away.

i love this man so much. and from what i believe he loves me. what can we do? we both have 3 children he has 3 from a preivious marrage and i have 3 from one as well and they see us going back and forth. my kids adore him. and it hurts them to see whats going on too. im at the line of setting a good example for my daughters and leaving him completly or sticking it out hoping that one day he will see how im here and we can get him help.

[~Christina]

Having Bipolar isn't an excuse to be a lousy human being. Your a person not his personal doormat.

Regardless of him having insurance or not ,, he can find help for his Bipolar, there are affordable medications.

Drop kick him and find someone that will love and respect you .. This guy ? he sounds like a massive jerk that is using Bipolar as a "get away with anything card"

I have Bipolar and while yes it can make relationships hard at times, but hes ridiculous. Dump him and move on

Welcome to PC

[Imah]

I have bipolar 1. I agree with what Christina said completely. Its not that I don't sympathize with what he is going through - I have also had a lot of jobs. A lot of life changes. This is what I think - bipolar doesn't make a person behave a way - they are what they are inside, and bipolar enhances it. A nice person with bipolar will still attempt to be considerate. A jerk will be a jerk.

I suggest you get him and you into couples counseling. What you both need to learn IMO is - you are not responsible for helping him to feel okay. Don't be his vehicle, while he tells you where to go and how fast to drive and when to turn.

Even if he wasn't bipolar, this relationship would be unbalanced because it isn't 50/50. The relationship is like a cart, and you two are the horses pulling it. Make sure you don't have a lazy horse that wants you to do all the work.

Honey, you will be lugging that lazy horse around your whole life unless the dynamics of the relationship change.

[fatallygorgeous85]

Thank you guys so much! I've defiantly been thinking about leaving. But the other side of me wants to help him. I'm so glad that I joined this site and get an insiders point of view. Right now we are on again (go figure) and he wants me to help support him through truck driving school. I want to but I don't want to be made a fool of when he gets back and decides he wants to split again.
Where can we go get help affordably? I def think we need it. ��