[betenoire19]

My partner can't handle my mental illness. It is tearing our family apart, and everything is just so hopeless right now. I am destroying everyone and everything that is unfortunate enough to be around me. I am so dependent on him and can't do this on my own. I have no one to blame but myself. Feeling so low. I need someone to talk to. I don't want to go back to the hospital again. I don't have any options. I just want my family to be happy, but I make everyone miserable. Feeling like a complete failure. I wish I had some support. No one understands.

[healingme4me]

Let me get this straight. He's about to walk out the door, leaving a 2 year old child and mother behind?

Takes two to ride the relationship roller coaster. What steps has he taken in therapy?

[betenoire19]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Let me get this straight. He's about to walk out the door, leaving a 2 year old child and mother behind?

Takes two to ride the relationship roller coaster. What steps has he taken in therapy?

Thank you for saying this...it's so easy and convenient for him to put all the blame on me since I am the one with diagnosed mental illness. It does take two, but everything is put on me. He does not attend therapy. I offer him resources to better understand my MI, which I think is essential to the relationship, but he doesn't do much research on his own.

I will be seeing a new therapist this week, and will find out about couples counseling. I'm just not ready to give up on my family when there's still steps that can be taken. I think he is willing to try and make it work, but he is at the end of his rope with me

[healingme4me]

Sounds like a cop out, to me, on his part. There's no reason for him to not address himself in therapy, not just for your sake, but your child.
I'm reaching a point in life, that leads me to feel that it's oft those unwilling to seek help that contribute to the unwellness of others, yet so quick to point fingers..

If he had, or would come to seek any understanding of your mi's, communication could turn for the better. Each of you could pinpoint what sets the other off, in order to create a more peaceful/calm/tempered environment.

For instance, with bipolar alone, knowing that sleep/rest helps keep you at a level emotional place, he could(referring to your other thread) ease your burden in parenting to let you regroup and feel ok.

Of course, it looks like you are making attempts to understand what you go through yourself. Not everyday will be perfect, but without a stable coparenting situation, how are you expected to have the better days that offset the off days?

[betenoire19]

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Originally Posted by healingme4me

Sounds like a cop out, to me, on his part. There's no reason for him to not address himself in therapy, not just for your sake, but your child.
I'm reaching a point in life, that leads me to feel that it's oft those unwilling to seek help that contribute to the unwellness of others, yet so quick to point fingers..

If he had, or would come to seek any understanding of your mi's, communication could turn for the better. Each of you could pinpoint what sets the other off, in order to create a more peaceful/calm/tempered environment.

For instance, with bipolar alone, knowing that sleep/rest helps keep you at a level emotional place, he could(referring to your other thread) ease your burden in parenting to let you regroup and feel ok.

Of course, it looks like you are making attempts to understand what you go through yourself. Not everyday will be perfect, but without a stable coparenting situation, how are you expected to have the better days that offset the off days?

I went to my first appt w/ my new therapist yesterday, and my bf inquired about going there himself. They gave him a form to fill out, and he is going to make an appt w/ a different therapist. I just hope he follows through. What you said about the ones pointing fingers is so true. And I want some sort of effort made into understanding, because I think that is key, on both of our parts.