Here is some information about myself and then you can tell me what I need to do in order to obtain a girlfriend. Let's call it Project Toilet.

I am 36, unemployed, and I live with my parents.
I have a high school education.
I own two pairs of jeans and two polo shirts.
I wear Rexona deodorant.
I am not studying at the moment
I have a therapist
I am overweight
I am starting to lose my hair
I have a bike which costs 1000 dollars
I have a car
I like to play video games on my computer and also to chat on the computer.
I have an iPhone
I have social anxiety disorder

Mostly I feel normal compared to everyone else, so I don't know why I can't fix this part of my life and couple with someone at least once. I don't mind being told that I have to make some changes to my life, it's obvious that I do.

Ok, go. Begin Project Toilet.

[divine1966]

1, Get some training. Doesn't have to be college. Could be some type of certification training like trade school or online. Not too many jobs out there with high school education

2. See vocational career counselor that can help you to choose right path

3, Talk to your t how to improve your life

4. Get a job. Could be part time. Anything. Doesn't matter what . Any job

5. When those things done then try some hobbies that would take you out of the house. Try to expand social circles. Try meetup. But do other things first

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[hpocus]

Do you know how many marriages began on World of Warcraft? Go the gaming route. If you're simply respectful of women you'll have a leg up on 90% of your competition.

Having a car will get you a girlfriend in my neighborhood.

Thank you I will try these suggestions.

[nicoleflynn]

What is the reason for mentioning deoderant. Just be a nice respectful guy and people/women will want to know you.

Stop self-identifying as a toilet, unless you specifically seek a girlfriend who would appreciate or somehow participate in that dynamic.

[llleeelllaaannneee]

Hi, I read the thread you posted in your signature and it confirmed my impression that you have a sense of humor

I also found the bluntness with a playful vibe of your self description (tho I think being self deprecating to the point of put downs is probably unhealthy, I agree that not calling yourself a toilet can go on the to do list) refreshing.

Looks like you're getting a lot of good suggestions. I'd say, stick with honesty and let a potential gf know what you're working on.

While wearing deodorant may have been said as a joke, basic hygiene/grooming will help. So I'd add, brush/floss, wash your clothes and keep the hair and nails clean.

Nowadays a lot of community colleges have online classes so if distance and or social anxiety have been set backs to furthering education it may be easier than you think to get an associates degree. It's been awhile since I went to community college but I think classes are still heavily subsidized if you have no money.

Sounds like you have a nice bike. I bet you can go online and find bike rides with others. Even if you only end up riding with other males they may have female friends. I met the last guy I dated because I started going to yoga classes with a female friend and he was her housemate. We all started going together and it was a nice way to get to know him.

[Soul Quake]

The solution is simple: change your deodorant.

I don't understand why everybody has mentioned the deodorant. It's as much a part of me as everything else.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

I don't understand why everybody has mentioned the deodorant. It's as much a part of me as everything else.

You are hilarious. You are telling us you meant it seriously? Like it is important in any shape or form?

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It's an interesting choice in describing yourself. Rexona must have strong ads.

[growlycat]

If you can't get work right away, volunteering is a great way to meet people. It projects that you are caring and thoughtful of others. Doing things in groups is less threatening, at least to women like me. Online dating seems like asking for a hookup, but Meetup groups are a good low-pressure way to meet people too.

Looks matter less than you think, like many of us, you do the best with what you've got.

[hvert]

How do you meet people? I mean, what's your mechanism? The problem may not be anything to do with you but just to do with how/where you try meeting girlfriends.

[Slamjammer]

Walk into any "gentlemen's club" and wave around a fistful of cash. You'll soon have all the girlfriends you can handle.

[niceguy]

The best advise you can ever get in regards to this question is to consider if in reverse if you would want to date yourself.

Women are straightforward. For a one night stand, be an ***. For a long term relationship, you have to be someone they want to wake up next to in the morning.

Don't waste your time in specifics. If she likes you, she will date you. If you are unlikeable, or show too much insecurity from the start, she will not.

If she was boring, or had little to offer, would you really see a long term future.

think about it - all the best.

[Koko2]

Have you tried computer dating service? One way to attract interest is to have a dependable job which will make women see you in a positive way, then move out of your parents house. When I had a good job, there were several women interested in me. Since I quit that job, not many have shown any interest although one showed interest when I had another good job, but she lost interest when I told her I lived with my parents. So I'd say get a good job then move out of your parent's house, and maybe try computer dating.

[divine1966]

I wouldn't mind if a person lived with their parents as needing to take care of elderly or sick parents. for other reasons then not so much

I don't need a man to support me so there is no need for a good job but there has to be a job. Most women would want some type of commitment eventually, living together etc . Not working would mean a woman would need to support you.

Yeah I personally cannot support no one. I have nice income but not to live two people off it. And I work two jobs now, in fact at my second job most people work elsewhere during the day. Mostly women. Many people at my day job also work elsewhere. Economy is bad. Bottom line most women who work that hard don't do it to support someone who doesn't work.

I do understand unemployment, hopefully it is not permanent

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[Moogieotter]

1. Lower your standards

2. Be Bold

If this approach fails, repeat.

[emwell]

Are you looking for long term relationship or a quickie or 2?
It makes a difference in how I answer.

But I do agree with getting rid of Illegal Toilet as a name. When I mentioned some of the names used here to my husband, he said, "anyone named Illegal Toilet you need to stay away from." I am grateful I did not listen to him

[Lobster Hands]

I recommend you take the George Costanza approach to life in almost everything you do. Mimic George Costanza and you will be on your way to greatness sooner than you can imagine.

[somethingasdf]

Is this thread compliant with your signature's meaning of "November 16th 2014"?

If so, try project sewer (Tinder) - the social anxiety will be in your way, but you seem like a smart guy so you know that X dates will lead to Y second dates and some of those second dates will turn into subsequent dates until the point you realize you're in a relationship ... then BOOM.. that implies you got a girlfriend.

I recommend you take the George Costanza approach to life in almost everything you do.

This thread reminded me of the Seinfeld episode where George decides to "do the opposite" of what he thinks he should. One of the first things he does is walk up to a woman at the coffee shop and say "Hi, I'm George. I'm unemployed and I live with my parents. Would you like to go out sometime?" and the woman enthusiastically says yes.

[HowDoYouFeelMeow?]

Girlfriends are not something to be "obtained". That sounds too much like the objectification of a female. Try thinking about developing an equal relationship between two people, rather than you conquering a goal.

[emwell]

I prefer Tom's of Maine.
The only deodorant that I can find that is "just deodorant"