Ex bf was threatening me last night

I went to sleep at 10 pm and woke up at 10:45 pm to a phone call from my ex, we dated about 2 years ago and it wasn't a healthy relationship, he was a party animal who often drank and I got into some close calls while dating him. I ignored the call, but then 30 mins later he called again. Then at 12 am he called again. I texted him saying "Please don't call me at midnight, I'm not interested, I'm sleeping." I was mad because this isn't the first time he's called me super late interrupting my sleep, I just didn't answer before.

He texts me saying, "I can't believe I ever cared about you. You fake nasty person. What about the video? I'd hate if there was a video of me out there for everyone to see." I texted him saying, "What video? I don't have a video of you. What are you talking about?" He said "You shouldn't send videos to people if you don't want them to be public. Hahaha the video is now viral. Why would you do that to yourself?" I started freaking out because I couldn't remember if I had ever sent him a video but during the time we dated I'm sure I might have. I called him and he answered but he sounded like he just woke up and said "What are you talking about?" I said "You were just texting me about posting a video online, that's illegal to do that to someone without their consent, and if I ever find a video of myself online I will contact the police. I'm saving these texts." He said "There is no video." I hung up the phone and he texted me after that saying "A mutual friend of ours has the video, people are crazy, you have your whole life ahead of you, if that shows up online it isn't my fault." I called him again in tears and left a voice mail telling him that is illegal. He texted me saying "Stop leaving me voice messages, you're harassing me. I never want to hear from you again."

By this point it's 2 am and I'm on the floor crying, scouring the internet trying to see if anything shows up. Nothing does. I don't know who this mutual friend is that he's referring to, or what video he's referring to. Is he bluffing?? I looked online for it again today and still haven't found anything. I can't believe this all started just because I didn't answer his drunken calls at midnight. I'm paranoid now that someone out there has a video of me and that he's going to post it on the internet. What should I do?!

Block people who maliciously contact you super late when you are trying to sleep.

The sad thing is that in many states it is technically not illegal to post nude pictures or videos of partners on the internet, and even if it were, it's easy to hide your IP address via VPNs and private proxies so the upload couldn't be linked back to you. In fact, they have a porn site called "GF revenge" or something similar that actually pays people money for nude photos and videos of their exes along with a plethora of offshore image and video hosting sites and there sadly isn't much that can be done since such sites are typically hosted in countries where the US doesn't have Jurisdiction."Revenge porn" as it's called has become increasingly common for guys to get revenge on their ex girlfriends who break up with them.

Your saving grace is the text messages because if he posts a video of you, you may actually be able to get him for harassment but it's unlikely that he would go to jail for any great length of time in most places. Your best bet would be to block his phone number and never talk to him again.

Phew, what a bustard. Keep evidence in case you need a court order or prosecution: Revenge porn: What to do if someone posts your naked pictures online - Telegraph

Otherwise his cruel behaviour shows him for what he is - let any mutual friends know of his actions.

Why don't you just block him? I understand you worried about the videos but in the beginning when he kept calling why did you let it wake up and then even text him? You could either turn the volume off and sleep and then block him in the morning or block right away. Don't engage with him

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That was one of the first things I did when I found out my stbxh was abusing my phone number....I got a new phone number & blocked his number completely from my phone....& he will NEVER know my new number to give it out again as a reference for his credit though maybe I wish he would because I would tell them exactly how bad he is with his finances & all the bad things he's done financially & they would NEVER give him a loan....but I want my peace totally cut off from him as much as possible until I get the divorce finalized.

Well I still haven't found anything and I've been looking. My friend said it sounds like he was just making the whole thing up. But I can't be sure. He's got issues, so I wouldn't put it past him. I should learn how to block someone on my phone, I've never done that before.

Yes, do learn that.

In the mean time, you could turn it off at night, or have it on silent.

I agree with your friend.

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