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Old Aug 15, 2015, 06:42 AM
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This might sound like a childish kind of thing but how do I tell this girl that's just amazing that I have feelings for her? Like I've tried but I get so scared, any advice to help me along?
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Old Aug 15, 2015, 12:25 PM
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when i am afraid to tell someone something, or having difficulty expressing myself, i write it down and send it. it just works best for me that way. also there are some very nice cards out there. maybe you can find one that expresses your thoughts.
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Old Aug 15, 2015, 04:25 PM
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Are you friends or is she just an acquaintance? First off I would suggest if you aren't friends to at least try to become friends before telling you that you have feelings for her. If you aren't friends & she doesn't have any interest in being friends with you then it's a mute point whether you have feelings for her or not.

If you are friends already, that would mean that you want to take the friendship into being BF/GF? If you already have a relationship & communications between you at the friendship level, then it might be easier to find the right time to let her know that you could easily think more of her than just a friend.

Sometimes the feeling is mutual....other times it's NOT....so you need to be open to both possibilities. It never hurts to say something. I had guys tell me that.....LOL....I got an email last year from a guy I went to high school with who told me that he had wanted to get to know me in high school but I was so shy that he was afraid to say anything....LOL....I was attracted to him also at that time......go figure....now we are both in our 60's. Who knows how life might have turned out he he had actually said something at that time????

There are guys that did say something that I really had no interest in either.....but I tried to express it in as nice of way as possible that I just wasn't interested in that kind of relationship with them & that friendship was as far as I was willing to take it.
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Old Aug 16, 2015, 04:15 PM
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Just tell her. Be a man and go to her and tell her. What could happen? Her say no? That's all that could happen. Who knows, she may feel the same about you.

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Old Aug 17, 2015, 01:49 AM
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I am currently seeing a girl through Facebook, and she is in college right now. As FB is the only mode of communication that I have, I find it easier to communicate with her. I've known her for three years, though I only started courting her this year. I look forward to seeing her this semestral break in October, and she will have her birthday in two weeks. I promised that I would finally talk to her through Messenger on or before her birthday, and once the sembreak starts, I would finally see her in person.

My resolve to talk to her is due to the fact that I had considered myself a loner until recently, when I started to open up to her. I wanted to show my own independence from my parents too. Sooner or later, you will have to man up and admit your feelings than regret not doing it later on in life.
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Old Aug 17, 2015, 08:44 AM
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