Adult children disrespectful

I am Bipolar, recently (3wks) out of the hospital with a major life decision to make (Boyfriend wants me to move in). It is not like I don't have concerns. It is a big step and it would be unrealistic to address them. Some family members have in fact raised concerns but have been in a large part supportive.

My adult children on the other hand have been downright disrespectful. Amongst other hurtful messages, they have accused me of being off my rocker. I obviously must be manic, etc, etc. I can't be trusted to make a decision. It is upsetting to be stigmatized by my own children. They see me as only manic or depressed, no middle ground, no normalcy.

How long have you been with your boyfriend? Had moving in together, been addressed before hospitalization? Are there motives, aside from love for one another that make moving in, a must?(i.e., are you trapping yourself financially if things don't work out?)

Otherwise, if your children are adults, so what? It's your life, your decisions. If they can only toss the bipolar label at you, shame on them.

In view of the other threads, you may not want to move in until you are satisfied that you can trust him again.

I agree with Bill , based on your other threads you should certainly take time to determine if moving forward and in with this fellow is a smart move.

As for your adult children making remarks like this.. I am sorry. Can you sit them down and explain to them that its hurtful and set boundaries with them..ie: you disrespect me, I will walk away, or hang up the phone etc .

What advice does your Therapist have for you regarding your Boyfriend and adult childrens attitudes?

I still think my children were disrespectful how they handled things but they turned out to be right in the end.

((((rcat))))