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So I was at this coffee shop and I was ordering a coffee and talking to the barista. She was wearing a shirt from the local team and I made a comment about how they weren't playing very good. There was s guy in the line behind me and he didn't like my comment and said I should move if I didn't like the team. I went into a tailspin and started telling him that I was going to the local games before he was born. The argument escalated and I thought for a moment it might get physical. The problem was he was much younger than me and I could have been hurt. So I grabbed my coffee and literally ran out the door before anything happened. When I got home I was shaking and was a little frightened that I couldn't control myself a little better. I can't even remember what I said. Lately I've been frustrated and very down about my status in life and I think it spilled over into this conversation. I go to this coffee shop often and I think I might've looked pretty strange - as in I lost control. I always been diplomatic in these situations but this time was different. I don't like what happened and I feel I should go back and apologize to everyone so I can feel comfortable in that place.
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#2
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I worked as a barista for many years and meh- it happens sometimes. Customers get into it with each other now and then.
Fortunately, your situation didn't get physical. Frankly, if you want my honest opinion- that guy sounds like he was in a rotten mood. Or maybe he's really a jerk. I'm betting he was nicer after he got his coffee ![]() |
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If it would make you feel better, then I would go back and apologize. That way you could go back to the coffee shop with a clear conscious.
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Apologize to the barista yes, but answering the question about the behaviour is the issue here.
I myself am bipolar. I can tell I'm swinging 'up' by my level of irritability. Your situation you describe is one such example. I at times will get rather snappy. I think it comes from being hyper aware. I don't know if those with other mental health issues experience this too. |
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Thanks, lately I've been conserned about my aggressiveness when I talk with anybody. Seems like I'm hyper aware of the way I'm reacting in the situation. I'm feeling some pressure internally to connect probably because I'm getting older and I don't want to be on the fringe. There is this older gentlemen in my neighborhood who spends his days wondering the streets looking in garbage bins. Nobody really says anything to him but they all express sympathy for his situation. I know this is extreme but I really don't want to be like him in a year or two - that would be the topper on an already long lonely stretch.
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Macd, have you considered talking to that man? maybe ask him to join you for a cup of coffee? As for the argument in your coffeehouse, just go in and apologize for the incident, it will be forgotten quickly.
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MacD - if coffee is uncomfortble, what about offeering him coffee card?
Anyway, the irritability and agressiveness sound to me just like a swing up into possibly a hypomanic state.I'd certainly talk to a professional about this. Can I ask if you are craving social interaction right now? What about wanting to get out? Those would be other signs. |
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