I've wondered, when you are dealing with someone with contradicting behavior, does that mean the person is fake or something else usually going on? Someone I know has this problem. One day the person may say she is not annoyed about something or may like something, then next thing you know, it is the exact opposite, then back again. In other words, she could say she is not annoyed with you, then say she actually was annoyed with you, then later on say she really was not annoyed with you. Or when it comes to jokes, it is okay for her to make certain jokes but if someone else does it, she gets mad. Also gets mad when someone politely asks her to stop doing something that is inappropriate such as non stop texting in the middle of a one on one conversation, yet she thinks it is okay to just accuse others of stuff or assume things about others that are not true. Also gets really pissed if someone bails in her, even when they let her know and for a good reason, yet thinks it is okay for her to do it to others. This person has depression so I'm not sure if this is related to that and her state of mind or just fake behavior. I have even tried giving her space but then she would say that is not necessary or a messed up thing to do, but then accuse me or others of being clingy. Yet she has signs of clingy behavior herself, which led to the downfall of a relationship last year. Just confused at what could be wrong.

[Trippin2.0]

Sounds like a classic case of being a douche bag.

[healingme4me]

Certainly lacking identity. Cut your losses, I'd say..

I sure hope this isn't a significant other. Sounds possibly narcissistic to me, that she thinks the world revolves around her. She's just being a bltch i think.

Originally Posted by rcat

I sure hope this isn't a significant other. Sounds possibly narcissistic to me, that she thinks the world revolves around her. She's just being a bltch i think.

No this is just a friend. Although her behavior did cause her to lose her boyfriend a year ago. She is very insecure but either she really is not as insecure as I thought or she just likes attention.

[LookingforCalm]

Ah, the "do as I say, not as I do" type. Yeah, classic narcissist. You're not going to reason with someone like that. They like drama, and they like making all the wrongs of the world about them. Nothing is ever their fault, and calling them out on anything requires a huge argument and/or explanation as to why you did because it's not their fault! Someone else did it!

I've been around way too many like this, and it always winds up being about them even when you try to help. Tread lightly if you want to stay friends. You're in for a rough ride.