Hmm...

So I need some opinions if this woman is sending me flirts or just mess with me. To start off, she was a cashier when I first met her. Days I wasn't there she would ask my mom if I was off that day or not. We talked some when I would come in. When she was off one day checking out, I just said to myself grow some nuts. And went with it, "need some help? With your groceries?" I helped her out with them. And straight up asked her. "You want to get some drinks or something?" She said "Yeah!" But the type of expression that said "I barley know you." Type of expression. So my luck she quite like a week after or so. So like I quite to and went off to Orlando. Moved back, I realize she shops there. So here are the signs I think she's interested maybe. First off she called(Or least I think she was Talking to me) me Hey Daddy. When I was walking past her outside. I hope she wasn't on Bluetooth. For the record, I hate Bluetooth. Can never tell if there talking to you or not. Just saying. Second, I was pushing carts near her car. She mistakenly toke me yawning for asking for a cigarette. She went back to her car just to get me. Cigarette. And gave it to me. (I don't smoke so...I told her I was yawning.....plus my memory is a bit rusty I think she might of went back for something else? She had two kids with so..idk) thirdly she's been shopping a lot lately. Last month I saw her, I was heading to the back. And she was looking at me smiling at me. Then last week she said hey to me. I was too busy working to even start up a conversation. Ironically enough...she was on my suggested friends on Facebook and I sent her a friend request. I'm 27 years old...feeling like I need to work my game lol...sorry for no spaces doing this off my iPad please for give me.

At the very least, it's friendly vibes. What came of the going out for drinks moment? Requesting her friendship on fb is a step, but why not follow through on coordinating some time chatting in person? See if she's someone you'd like to spend time with. What's the worst that could come from this, considering it's been friendly between the two of you, already?

That's what I'm working on. Thing is everything she says hi she catches me off guard. What came out of the drink moment? She replied "Yeaaah! We'll go on lunch break sometime." Not sure why anyone would get drunk on the job but ok. From my experience she looked and replied in a way that told me "I barley know you" type of look. You know? I been so lonely for so long. I honesty can't tell if a woman is coming in to me or being friendly. My birthday is this Mon turning 27 I want to be in a serious relationship least by 30. I'm not expecting a model girlfriend. Just someone I can find attractive looks and personality wise.

Honestly she doesn't sound interested. Did you try online dating sites? Give it a try

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A good way to see if she is interested is to talk with her more and then to ask her out.

Good point about drinks during lunch hour. It was left open ended with the 'something,' as opposed to, stating availability. Talking more, could garner more information. It is difficult, it seems moreso these days. Online dating is an option, yet, as with anything has its plusses and minuses. She could be flirting, thus worth finding out a little more.

Sorry if I missed this, but did she accept your request? If so, does she like a lot of your posts? If she does, you might learn something by the context of your statuses and the types of posts she likes.

No she didn't reply. It's still pending for approval. When I first saw her page she posted maybe two pictures witn a year. Rarely, I find it a bit ironic though she updated/toke. New picture few days after I sent a request. Why now? Why wait a year? A friend of mine at work said most Ebony women receive friend request lots and lots of them. She probley doesn't even look at them. She suggested Me send a message. But yeah...no..

Then yeah, need to up your game. Ain't gonna happen on fb. Are the two kids hers? Is there baby daddy drama?

I don't know. Only plan I got so far is wait till I see her in person in store again. And try to talk to her. Although I do have a time limit. Until I transfer to the store they are building near me currently. About three months or less. i think she does have one kid. But what gets me is changing updating her profile days after I sent the friend request. Seems interesting to me but idk. Maybe it's coincidence. Doesn't seem she was on a lot.

Hard to say. I'm on my second fb attempt. Had gone so far as to place in the about me section, if male, unless related I'm not accepting. I've bent slightly, as there is one that isn't quite related, but long time family friend, grew up in my grams neighborhood and is like family and similar, with another, just different capacity plus younger than me. That's it for my bending on that. First account started when married, even then it brought drama and whoa once divorced. But I digress. I needed to add my statement again when I noticed the format changed when logging in through mobile. So, not saying that's her reasons, but fb isn't the greatest means for getting to know others.
Was her photo flattering? Anything else on it made public?

Once you transfer, does that mean you'll stop interest in her?

Looks flattering. Likes and comments.oh and the picture was edited it had two smiles on it. One with the kissing lips and the other with eyes replaced with two hearts. Not sure if that's a big deal.

I have a friend that uses those emojis all over her instagram. She's very much in a relationship and some of the photos she shares makes me wonder how to filter without completely dropping her from instagram...

Social media Gotta love it. ���� none of her other few pics have those emojis. What if she did see the friend request? Why would she just let it sit there pending rather then just click no or accept?

I have a friend who totally missed her friend request on FB from me but we are good friends. I asked her about it & she thought we were friends. I checked. Ended up deleting the one friend request & sent another one which she caught that time. I have noticed I had a bunch of friend requests from a game I was playing & some real friend requests got lost in the list.

Getting drinks doesn't imply getting drunk....or at least it shouldn't. I would be Leary of a guy who wanted the first date to be drinks tho because many do imply getting drunk & thats not the best way to start off getting to know anyone if you are truly interested in THEM

Oh no I don't want to get her drunk and do the sex. She suggested drinks. Me personally I would prefer maybe walking on train tracks talking or just sitting on hood of the car chilling. Talking eating subway or something.

Sitting on a hood of a car? First date? I don't think you need to invite her to fancy meals but sitting on a hood chilling? I assume she is a grown woman. That doesn't sound like a first date to me.

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She's 23 I'm 27 gosh I don't know what couples do now a days. Or how the first date is suppose to go. It's been awhile since I been on a real actual date.

Depending on the car, could be a sweet gesture. Since it's not quite a picnic, but not in an enclosed space.

Nothing fancy. But yeah thanks for your input folks. The only thing I feel I can do now is wait till she comes in the store and try to talk to her. Hopefully she will not catch me off guard and I can think of something smooth cool awesome to say.

When you see her ask her for coffee and ask for her phone number to arrange a date. Don't suggest drinks of hoods of cars. Be direct

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