[BambiBar93]

So I just got married this past week, and I am the happiest girl alive! I just have something I need advice on how to properly handle a certain subject that my husband and I are very different on. From the beginning of our relationship my husband has been very affectionate towards me, there is not one doubt in my mind that he loves me. I had made the decision at a very young age to stay a virgin until I got married. I half did that. My now husband is the only man I have ever done it with. I had explained this to him right away and he respected my wishes. About two weeks into dating he started telling me that he loved me, about a month in a half later I told him I loved him as well. I knew from that point on that I wanted to marry him. I gave "it" to him. We are now married, so in love, and extremely happy. Except for one thing... how often we do it. From the beginning he's been the same way, He'll only do it every 7-10 days. When we got together he was not a virgin, he had already been engaged before and she cheated on him while he was in the military, so my drive is much stronger than his. We've discussed it before and he does the best he can his drive just isn't there. He loves to hold me, and cuddle, and give me kisses, but sex is almost never there and I'm getting really frustrated... Do any of you have advice?

[Trippin2.0]

Once a week is certainly not the same as "never there"...

I don't have any advice except to say that you may want to see things for how they are instead of how they feel, perception plays a HUGE role in our happiness.

So while it feels like the sex is never there, it is in fact there once a week.

You may feel that's bad, but just take a read around and see how many people are actually sexually starved. You'll start feeling really lucky when you read their posts.....

Idk, you say you've spoken to him and he's trying, I'm not sure what there is to do beyond that because I've been blessed with a bf who's sexual appetite matches mine.

[BambiBar93]

Yeah, if I leave it up to him, it would maybe happen every other month (I've tried not asking and that's how long I had to wait). When I do try to initiate, more if it's been less than 9 days, he gets upset with me, saying he's tired and that's not fair of me to make him feel bad, idk how I make him feel bad when all I do is ask.