What is wrong with some men?

I expect more looks that could kill and ice-age atmosphere. Very entertaining for others. :-/

Pay no attention to him.

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Oh I barely do, trust me.
Problem is also that I get hostility from some of his close friends. I pretend I'm blind and deaf and chat as if nothing was wrong in the world but hey, not easy. Thank God I have good friends in that circle too.

Yes, I agree. Before I would accept and then after months act out of anger.
Now I stay calm and tell him to cut the crap.
It worked so far. I told him about a few things I couldn't accept and he said he would fix it.
Now I am waiting for facts. No more sweet talk. Facts, facts, facts.
I am talking about respect. Let's forget about love for now or probably forever. It's like I'm dealing with a child.

It reminds me of the TV show 2 1/2 men Charlie Sheen character.

I think you should avoid him when at an event that he's attending.

Haha! Yes, it is a real soap opera!!
Trust me. I am avoiding him as far as I can. For the last 3 months we barely exchanged 3 words.

And when I have to talk to him, I voice my concerns now.
Strangely enough it has some impact (at least so far but no idea if it will last).

He can keep his love (I don't think he's capable of it at this stage of his life, he's seeing 3-4 girls regularly and each thinks she has a shot. I am watching this mess unravel from the benches. It will end badly for all people involved, I think. Not my problem though). But I do want some consideration. We have common friends and it creates a bad atmosphere otherwise.

He's defenitely a player. You should be happy it didn't go further than it went. Probably he already had a relationship with this girl and he was hiding it. who knows.

I think so too. He looks like a player. At least he didn't want to drag me into it, which I guess is a sort of compliment in his case. He was already pursuing 3 girls when I met him (of course I had no idea. I thought it was just flirting). It looks like an obsession. Like he needs it for validation. It's kind of sad.
And yes, I am glad it didn't go further. A male friend of his told me "You're the one that got away".
He keeps saying he needs space but I haven't talked to him in weeks so it's kind of a paranoïa. I noticed he rewrites stories in his mind to this: "Girls are crazy about him. He's a victim. He feels guilty for treating them badly. He feels angry when they go. He feels sorry. He feels angry. He does it again."
Hollywood: watch and learn.

Honestly I would stop worrying about him and who he is dating at this point. Do you feel he takes too much space in your head? Especially analyzing what's going on in his mind. One can't possibly know what people think. I hope thinking about what he does and what he thinks doesn't prevent you from enjoying your life.

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Much, much less and trust me I live my life. I keep an eye open for other guys, I travel, meet loads of fun people
I still see him at events but I don't try to meet him. We barely talk.

He's doing the usual stuff but it doesn't work anymore. He's still dating around, especially one very young chick. Good for him. He dropped hints that it's not serious with that other girl and I am sure he meant it for at least a few hours lol and he may mean it again in May on a Wednesday or a Saturday. It's all impulses of the moment. The guy is completely unaware of his own emotional life, of what he wants etc...

As u can tell my mindset has changed.

What kind of women accept to sit on a numbered seat to wait if they are picked (usually none of them is, but hey)?

A close friend told me to forgive him and that otherwise he'll end up alone. I told him that maybe that this is what he wants. Sure, I forgive him but I don't accept it and as far as I am concerned it's all pointless. Yes, he looks rather miserable on some of his facebook profile pics but it's homemade. When you can't make up your mind to a pathological level, you can't expect to be blissfully happy and I refuse to be dragged into this mess.