[Doublea176]

Long story short, because of my illness I am all alone. I have pushed every person out of my life and now have no one. I have been stable for two years now but still can't seem to make any relationships with the people I am around. I swear to god there is something wrong with my brain because it never works around other people (maybe social anxiety?). I'm tired of hearing about other people in my family hanging out together and hooking up with women while I can't even find someone to spend a night with at a bar. Anyways, just looking for somewhere that I can talk and get to know some people. Any replies would be greatly appreciated.

[CANDC]

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[Calypso2632]

Hi Doublea
I also have a hard time with people. I do have a couple friends but find I isolate alot of the time even tho most days I guess I consider myself lonely. I do have persistent anxiety issues that keep me home and to myself tho. I can understand when you say you hear about others getting together while you sit home alone. Maybe hang out with family some nights? When I used to go to the bar I would strike up conversation with whoever was close enough to listen. Lol. Just wanted you to know you're not alone. And welcome to pc!

[possum220]

Rather than focusing on "hooking up with a female" are there any groups or volunteer possibilities in your area. I have volunteered at community shops, animal rescues and meals on wheels. I find that getting involved with things helps to keep me get involved with life which in turn helps to fight loneliness. Even going to a craft group gets me out of the house and I can meet others. Do you have any interests that might be useful to others?. It will also help improve your self esteem and who knows....... maybe there will be a female out there?

Possum makes a really good point. If it is a romantic situation you seek out; um, have you considered an online hook-up site? Not something like POP or Craigslist which are basically one night stand sex sites but something more legitimate like eHarmony (I'm serious) or even matchup. I know of countless people these days who have met their longterm partners and even spouses this way. There is even one (I can't recall the name) for people with mental health problems.

The point tho is to get yourself out there. And, in my personal opinion, a bar is not the place to do it.

[divine1966]

I really don't think that "hooking up or spending nights in bars is better than being alone. Try meetup got social groups?

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[cobalttinor]

Just so you know, in regards to one reply regarding dating websites, in my experience they have all been a waste of time so far. It may make your feeling of loneliness worse as it has mine.

[FaithHopeLove]

Coming from a female perspective, hooking up and dating sites aren't the greatest ideas. Please feel free to message if you need someone to talk to

[Fuzzybear]